One month after his 22nd birthday, Lot married Elizabeth "Betsy" Kennedy, the 17-year-old daughter of Daniel and Lucretia (Whipple) Kennedy of Voluntown. The marriage took place at the First Congregational Church of Voluntown (also known as the Plain Church) with the Reverand Micaiah Porter officiating. The date was April 28, 1796. The young couple settled near Lot's father's farm at the southeast of Beach Pond in Voluntown. Ten months later, the couple's first child, Daniel Kennedy Larkham was born. Lot and Betsy subsequently had four children during the course of their marriage:
- Daniel Kennedy Larkham, born March 8, 1797
- Erastus Renssalaer Larkham, born July 5 1801
- Alice Kennedy Larkham, born April 19 1803
- Lancelot "Lancy L." Larkham, born February 15, 1810
On October 21, 1799, Lot's mother died at the age of 59. Two years later, December 3, 1801, Lot's father remarried a 52-year-old woman named Hannah Larkin. During this time period, all of Lot's siblings left Connecticut to settle in various parts of New York state. His oldest brother, John, took his family to Schoharie County, New York. His next oldest brother, Thomas, went first to Petersburgh, Rensselaer County, New York in 1799, and later to Hartford, Washington County, New York. Lot's sister Sarah married Benjamin Colegrove of Voluntown and they moved to Brookfield, Madison County, New York in 1802. Sister Prudence married William Himes and they settled in Berlin, Rensselaer County, New York. Lot's younger sister, Patience, married John Witter. They also settled in Brookfield, New York before migrating further west.
The westward migration of his siblings clearly had a significant impact on Lot's landholdings in Voluntown. On October 30, 1799 (just nine days after his mother's death), Lot's older brother Thomas, who was then living in Petersburgh, New York, gave power of attorney to Lot over his property and possessions in Voluntown. Lot was eventually to be the recipient of all of his father's Beach Pond land. In 1801, Lancelot Larkham gave land to Lot in two land deeds.
On August 25, 1814, at the age of 35, Betsey Kennedy Larkham died, leaving Lot with 4 year-old Lancy, 11 year-old Alice, 13 year-old Erastus, and Daniel, age 17. Lot was 40 years old, and the challenge of raising a family and maintaining a sizeable farm no doubt inspired him to look for another wife. A little more than two years later, Lot married again.
Lot's second wife, Olive Gorton, was the daughter of Hezekiah and Patience (Wood) Gorton of West Greenwich, Rhode Island. Lot and Olive were married on November 28, 1816. The marriage was recorded in Voluntown town records as:
"Lot Larkham Junr. and Olive Gorton were lawfully Joined in mariage[sic] Nov. 28th AD 1816 by Stafford Green Elder".
``Olive was between 26 and 35 years of age, and perhaps from a West Greenwich Rhode Island family, as the Baptist elder who married them, Stafford Greene, was from neighboring West Greenwich.
``A little more than two years after their marriage, Olive gave birth to a son, John Alfred Larkham. Lot and Olive were to have four children of their own during the seventeen years that they were married:
- John Alfred Larkham, born February 4, 1819
- William H. Larkham, born May 31, 1820
- Betsey Olive Larkham, born May 24, 1824
- Edwin Larkham, born January 26, 1828
In January 10, 1821, Lot's father , Lancelot Larkham, died. Lot was made executor of his father's will, and he inherited the greater part of his father's estate, valued at $1113.01. In December of this same year, Lot's older brother, Thomas, was killed in a farming accident in Hartford, New York.
Lot appears to have spent most of his life on the Beach Pond farm that his parents established in the late 1700s. In 1824, Lot added to this property by purchasing cedar swamp land in Exeter, Rhode Island (no doubt land adjacent to the existing Larkham land but just over the Connecticut line in Rhode Island) from William Tucker.
On May 25, 1834, Olive Gorton Larkham died, leaving Lot, once again, with a young family to raise on his own. John was 15, William was not yet 14, Betsy Olive had just turned 11 the day before, and Edwin was only 6.
Less than a year later, on April 6, 1835, Lot took a third wife, 36-year-old Sarah "Sally"Ann Phillips of Coventry, Rhode Island. Lot was nearly 61 years old. Their first child, Sally Ann Larkham was born on December 13, 1836. Lot and Sally Ann Phillips Larkham had two children together:
Sally Ann Larkham, born December 13, 1836
Mary Jane Larkham, born November 2, 1838
On May 22, 1847, Lot Larkham died. His will, written on December 22, 1845 and proved on June 11, 1847, named his wife, Sally Larkham, son Daniel K. Larkham, son Erastus R. Larkham, daughter Alice K. Larkham, son Lancey L. Larkham, son John A. Larkham, daughter Betsey O. Larkham, daughter Sally Ann Larkham, daughter Mary J. Larkham, and son William H. Larkham. William and his stepmother were named executors of the estate, with William inheriting the majority of Lot's real and personal estate, valued at $948.77.
Home Go back to
My New England Ancestry
Go back to
The Larkhams of
R.I. & CT.
Sign My Guestbook View My Guestbook Contact me, Sally, at
To stop music, click on the square black button, below.
You are listening to the folk song, "The Old Rambler", sequenced by Barry Taylor.