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6553. Ray Daniel HOLDRIDGE (Samuel Eneas HOLDRIDGE
, Eliza Jane MAIN
, Samuel
, Samuel
, Benajah
, Thomas
, Thomas
, Jeremiah
, Ezekiel
) was born 12 Jul 1900 in Norwich, New London Co., Connecticut. He died 16 Feb 1988 in Ledyard, New London Co., Connecticut.
A LIFE WITH A PURPOSE, by S. Archie Holdridge, private printing by author 1991. In my library. p. 7.
Since Ray was only two years younger than I was, we really had more time together than I did with any of the others.
Our farmhouse had no central heating or any other modern conveniences; only two bedrooms were used at first, the two downstairs. Ray and I shared the same bed a quite an early age. The first I ever really remember was when I was 7 or 8 years old at Christmas. We both believed in Santa Claus. We had hung our stockings up in what then was the dining and kitchen rooms just outside our bedroom door. We both woke when it was still dark and whispered to each other about the possibility of Santa Claus coming and going. I remember I said "if you are so interested why don't you go out and see". His quick reply was "you are on the side nearest the door, you should go". Finally, I got up very carefully not to make any noise and gradually began pulling the bedroom door open. The first thing I saw seemed to have a lot of red on it. I jumped to the conclusion it must be Santa Claus. I returned to the bed just as quickly as I could without making any noise, jumped into bed and whispered to Ray, "He's still out there". We both covered our heads with the blankets and just waited for the longest time or till we just had to have more air. When it got light, we both got brave and went together to open the door and the red that I had seen was on a new rocking horse which Santa had left.
EULOGY TO RAY HOLDRIDGE, by Paul Holdridge Jr.
I believe I was Uncle Ray's "buddy". At least that is what he always called me. When I was young everyone called me Buddy, then it was Bud, then Paul, Jr., and sometimes now it's Mr. Holdridge. But Uncle Ray still called my "Buddy". He was also my buddy, my teacher, and my friend. He was my teacher of many practical things, such as the use of tools and methods of construction, the art of political compromise, but most of all he taught me to enjoy life and have fun at whatever you do. If you could play a practical joke on someone, or spread gossip, that was his way of life. I am sure that Al and George Clark, and my Uncles Archie, Carl and Leslie can all remember times when they were victims of Ray's sense of humor.
At all family gatherings, when Uncle Ray arrived the joking and story telling really began and many times Ray was the willing victim, just to make everyone laugh. In fact he would want us to be laughing right now. I'm sure he is laughing at me trying not to be nervous.
Ray was always a child at heart and could communicate with the youngest of children. How often I heard him speak "baby talk" to infants (ex. Dada, boo-boo) and they all seemed to understand. All children sensed and enjoyed his love and attention.
The young athletes of the town knew and enjoyed Ray's loyalty and support of the team. His loud cheering or razzing could be heard at most football games and probably if attendance at all Ledyard High football games was documented, Ray's name would be high on the list.
His desire to do the daring and different was demonstrated all through his life. He was one of the few teenagers who dared to dive off the drawbridge in Poquetanuck Cove, from a height of 30 or so feet. He would do anything for a thrill, from walking a ridge on top of an unfinished building to doing a loop in an airplane. I remember him going off a rope swing at Long Pond and jumping into the water, fully clothed, at age 70. This was the way he enjoyed life.
He also enjoyed being a critic. He had a way of making people believe they had made a mistake, only to become a victim of Ray's practical jokes. But no one seemed to get mad.
I was walking with Ray through the Crystal Mall when it was still under construction, and as he looked the "Inspector Type" I heard him call out to 3 men on a scaffold constructing a partition. "Hay fellas you're building that partition 6 inches out of line'. Three men stopped work, checked their blueprints, looked down at Ray who was laughing, and all 3 started to laugh with him. Somehow these strangers knew it was all in fun.
We all need to stop and laugh at ourselves once in a while and I believe that was one of Ray's missions, to make us laugh.
I'll remember Ray for his honesty, with a few political white lies, his hard work, and his dedication to his town, but most of all I'll remember him as a friend and "buddy" who enjoyed a fun-filled life. After today, there will be more laughter in Heaven. We all thank you Uncle Ray.
REMARKS MADE BY MR. BROWN AT RAY'S FUNERAL
Ray D. Holdridge, born July 12, 1900 - carpenter, builder - dedicated citizen of Ledyard, which he loved - and to which, in his younger years he devoted himself selflessly. Listen to the array of activities to which he was aligned:
Justice of the Peace, Town Hall Building Committee, Ledyard Grange, Ledyard Fair Association, Ledyard Fire Co. No. 1, Ledyard Boys League, Ledyard Congregational Church, Board of Selectmen (1948), & Republican Town Committee.
He represented the Town of Ledyard to the State House of Representatives from 1950-1973 (7 towns). Counting among projects in which he played an important role were:
1. The Vo-Ag section of Ledyard High School. 2. The Mohegan-Pequot Bridge. 3. The early efforts to get Route 117 improved - now close to completion.
Ray enjoyed the "give and take" of politics, often injecting a controversial subject and then sitting back to enjoy the squabble.
A Republican, yes, but he was always prompt to add, "I work both sides of the aisle", which he did very successfully.
Friendly, quick to make friends, a subtle sense of humor, and people liked him.
He was a Holdridge through and through and frequently expressed his pride in the family and their accomplishments.
True we are reluctant to relinquish him - tears cannot be suppressed - and we are absorbed in a sense of loss. The big gray reclining chair in front of the desk in the Antique Shop, where affairs of the Town, State, and Nation were settled. That chair will be empty, but we must not in our grief overlook many preceding chapters. We can be proud and happy concerning the life I have briefly described. The happy years with Helen, for whom he cared deeply. He leaves a host of friends and acquaintances as well, a library of pleasant memories and anecdotes for the "Good Old Days" he shared with many.
Yes we can even rejoice.
Ray put his mark on this community. He leaves it a bit better than he found it, and his mark will not be quickly erased from our memories.
THE DAY, NEW LONDON, CONN., THURSDAY, FEB. 18, 1988
RAY HOLDRIDGE, EX-LEGISLATOR, LEDYARD STALWART
By STEVE FAGIN, Day Staff Writer
LEDYARD - Ray D. Holdridge of 60 Kings Highway, a former state representative, community leader and a memmber of one of the town's most prominent families died Tuesday at Lawrence and Memorial Hospital. He was 87.
Mr. Holdridge, the only Republican in a family of Democrats, served seven consecutive terms in the legislature, from 1959 to 1973. He4 represented Ledyard and Montville.
He supported measures calling for construction of the Mohegan-Pequot Bridge across the Thames River, the straightening and widening of Route 117 between Center Groton and Ledyard Center, and the creation of a vocational-agricultural program at Ledyard High School.
The General Assembly passed a resolution Wednesday honoring Mr. Holdridge for his contributions, calling him "an exemplary legislator, a man of character, deep loyalty, great determination and foresight."
Rep. Glenn Arthur of Ledyard, who co-sponsored the resolution, said, "He was a political mentor and a very close personal friend."
As a representative from a predominantly rural district, Mr. Holdridge often complained about the preponderance of lawyers in the legislature.
"I've got nothing against the lawyers, but they're professional men. Sessions are held at night so lawyers can have their office hours, in the olden days we had a little more common sense," he said in an 1981 interview.
A Ledyard native, Mr. Holdridge was involved in politics on the local level, too. He was a member of the Board of Selectmen in 1948, the Town Hall Building Committee in 1956, and the Republican Town Committee. He also served as a justice of the peace.
Mr. Holdridge was a charter member of the Ledyard Volunteer Fire company, a founder of the Ledyard Boys League, a past president of the Ledyard Fair Association, and was a member of Ledeyard Grange, the Ledyard Nursing Board and the Ledyard Congregational Church.
He was an avid sportsman who was a fixture in the stands at high school football games. Last year the Boys League honored him upon the dedication of a new sports field in Gales Ferry.
When he learned that hunters were shooting ducks on the Thames River, he established the Poquetanuck Cove Bird Sanctuary.
Born July 12, 1900, the son of Samuel E. and Phoebe Holmes Hldridge, he grew up on the family farm.
"We were close friends. In those days, neighbors were neighbors." said former Mayor J. Alfred Clark, Jr., who grew up on a nearby farm.
Before the Holdridges expanded their nursery operation, they grew vegetables. Clark remembered helping deliver loads of produce with Ray Holdridge to Norwich. In return his friend helped with the Clark family dairy farm, he said.
Long-time friend Robert O. Brown called Mr. Holdridge "an extremely good-humored guy."
He just loved this community." Brown said, recalling how Mr. Holdridge would snap to attention any time he heard a reference to Ledyard. At the same time, Brown said, "He was extremely proud of the Holdridge name."
Mr. Holdridge who married the former Helen Selvidio Oct. 28, 1959, in Groton, had been a self-employed carpenter in the 1940s. An eye injury forced him to give up carpentry, and for several years worked as a salesman at the family-owned Holdridge Farm Nursery in Ledyard Center.
In the 1960s he opened Ledyard Center's first restaurant, the Open Hearth Restaurant, and operated it for a number of years before selling the business and running an antique store. Somebody's Treasures, with his wife. He was best known in the business for his collections of antique-dolls and toys.
Besides his wife, survivors include a daughter, Ruth Shafer of Florida; three brothers, Archie of Madison, Carl of East Dennis, Mass., and Leslie Holdridge of Costa Rica; five grandchildren and several great-grandchildren.
Funeral service will be at 10:30 a.m. Friday at the Ledyard Congregational Church. Interment will be in Maplewood Cemetery, Norwich.
Calling hours are 7 to 9 tonight at the Gales Ferry Funeral Home of Church & Allen.
Donations may be made in his memory to the Ledyard Volunteer Emergency Squad.
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