The censuses in Missouri seem to indicate that Mary was the youngest child of William & Ann Johnson Haden. Traditionally she is placed as next to the youngest, perhaps because her marriage took place about 10 months before her sister Nancy's marriage. She could have been the youngest child.
In the division of the Negroes of William Haden, John Wilson and wife Polly declined to claim part, but not waiving their rights to further division of property. (The land was not divided at this time, nor did I find the actual record of that - many of the court records are too faded to read) This list of children of John and Polly from email seemed doubtful - but finding the family from 1850 indicates this is the same family. Came from the HAYDEN-L Mail List 6 Mar 1997 from <firstname.lastname@example.org> who did not respond to my inquiry.
Logan Co Deed Book L, p.244f 5 Jan 1822 [Actually 1821]. The heirs of Wm Haden decd, settled with Samuel who had land laid off by his father & surveyed, but title had not been made. Samuel had also received personal property and Negroes. He gives up further claims to the estate & pays the heirs $500 for all property and the 271 acres of land adjoining William Haden Jr & Clark's Military Survey on the Black Lick fork of the Gasper River. Signees are: James Haden, Thomas Procter for himself and as guardian of the children of his former wife Sally Haden decd, William Whitsitt for himself and as guardian of the children of his late wife Milly Haden dec'd, William Haden, Lowry Bishop as guardian of Benjamin R. Haden, son of Benjamin Haden, dec'd, Joseph Haden, Joseph Haden as guardian for John & William sons of John Haden decd, William Porter, Nancy J. Porter, John Wilson, Polly Wilson, Sally Haden, guardian for Sally Haden her daughter. Nancy J. Porter & Polly Wilson relinquished their Dower rights in Butler Co on Jan 30. [Although this deed was dated 1822, the Dower release was 1821, which I believe is the correct year based on other events.] Acknowledged by Spencer Curd, Logan Co clerk on 3 Mar 1823.
82nd Dist, St. Louis Co MO, p.530, Household 1922
Manchester/Bonhomme Township, St. Louis Co MO, p.357, Household 1176
The above enumerations are so strange, I spent some time on them. The one that seems accurate - with the right children living at home - was taken by Cornelius Vanausdal on Oct 16th . The other with names of grown children who also appear in other places with their own families, was taken by F. Pollitz and the date is earlier, Sept 2nd. It is likely Mary lived close to the dividing line between enumerator's districts. There could also be more that we don't know about the dates on the census sheets - many of the enumerators took notes on paper, then later recopied their notes onto the official sheets. I'm sure in some cases the date on the official sheet did not match the date they were actually there. And surely they just made errors. In 1850 when F. Pollitz counted Manchester/Bonhomme Twp, only three pages after Polly's listing on Sept 2nd, the date appears to be Nov. 3rd. - a bit odd. And he's the one that got all the children and omitted the five-year-old Albert and the Irish boarder. Then Polly's other counting has the date of Oct 16th and a District number, not a township ...all quite strange. And this enumerator, Cornelius Vanausdal has consecutive dates if you go backwards and forwards - much more sensible - he seemed to be working carefully through the neighborhood day by day. It's interesting, too, that the two entries don't agree on where the children were born - seems the inefficient Pollitz may have made the most errors - somehow I doubt that he was even at Polly's on Sept 2nd.... Or if he was, he didn't know what exactly he was doing....
Just for fun, I went looking for F. Pollitz in the census in St. Louis. In St. Louis Ward 3, I found Frederick Politz, age 35, a clerk, born in Germany. Henrietta, age 28, born in Germany. Johanna Ficke, age 21, b. Germany. Frederick Politz, age 5, b. MO. Hermann Politz, age 1, b. MO.
I also found Cornelius Vanausdal. He lived in District 82 - the same district where he counted. Polly was in household 1922. Cornelius was a boarder in household 772. He was age 57, an Asst. U.S. Marshal, born in Virginia. He was possibly a widower because living in the same household was also Eliza J. Vanausdal, age 4 and born in MO. And living in the house listed just before was Cornelius J. Vanausdal, age 7, b. MO. Both these households are made up of various persons. These children are so much younger than Cornelius I would suspect they are grandchildren - perhaps one of the females is a remarried daughter-in-law and these children were born of a deceased son. Listed between Cornelius and Eliza was Margaret A. Keal, age 25, b. KY. Who knows. But I would think he might do better as an enumerator, given his "credentials". I believe his count is the more correct and the married sons were at home with their families.
I also found in 1850 in Bonhomme Township, St. Louis Co, p.369, Household 1355. This may also be Leonidas, counted twice, based on information from 1880 - see his notes.
Lycurgus is also listed at home with his family in Ohio Co, KY, 1850.
and Benjamin was at his home as well
Mary "Polly" HADEN and John WILSON were married on 10 January 1817 in Logan County, Kentucky.302 John WILSON124,194,218,253,301,303 was born between 1785 and 1790. He died in 1837 at the age of 52 in St. Louis County, Missouri.
Logan County KY Court Records Book 8 (1822-1827) LDS #0364563 p.127 5 Oct 1824 Inventory, appraisement and sale of goods & chattels of John Wilson Decd was this day return and ordered to be recorded... (but if this is this John Wilson he could not have had the children shown; perhaps his father? Also John Wilson was still living during the estate settlement of his father-in-law William Haden so this cannot be the same.)
Neither is the following the right John Wilson:
None of these works out too well with this John who married Polly Haden. No John Wilson found in Logan Co 1830. Since they didn't want to "travel" to the settlement of slaves of Polly's father, perhaps they lived in another county. In an 1821 deed, they were living in Butler Co. The censuses from Butler Co also indicate that is where they were living in 1820 - by 1830, they were in Missouri.
1820 US Census, Butler Co KY John Wilson: 1m -10, 1m 26-45, 1f -10, 1f 16-26 [There is no daughter known of this age, living in later censuses, but there was time for John & Mary to have had two children since they married. John was also likely older and could have had an earlier marriage.] 2 slaves.
1830 Census. St. Louis Co MO; Bonhomme Township, p.320
John is thought to have died in the late 1830's. The widow is found in St. Louis in the same township in 1850. There was a Bonhomme Twp in St. Louis Co in 1840 but there is no Wilson listed at all. A total of 4 John Wilsons can be found elsewhere in St Louis Co in 1840, but none seem to "fit" this family - the only John Wilson with several young children was age 30-40, his spouse 20-30 and the children were a bit too young as well.
Mary "Polly" HADEN and John WILSON had the following children: