by: Jean Gutzman Wallace
May will always be a month of great reminiscence on my part
when it comes to my mother, as it was a most eventful month in
Mom's life. She was born on the 19th, Mothers Day the second
Sunday, I was born on the 3rd and she died on the 27th, buried the day
after Memorial Day.
This will be written so that our grandchildren will have the
opportunity to know their great grandmother as we did. She
touched so many lives, not just her family but, anyone that she met.
There were very few people that mom didn't like. She
believed that there was good in everyone, you just had to look
harder to find it in some than others and if she thought you
needed her last dime worse than she did, she would give it in a heart beat.
She had an uncanny way of making you laugh till your side hurt
with a wit that could stand up to anyone's. She could tell a story like
no one else.
And she had hundreds to tell.
Unfortunately, as for all of us, not all of her stories were funny.
Many would bring the hardest of hearts to tears, but Mom always came
through a little bit stronger from each experience.
Whether happy or sad, her experiences in life are what made her the
person she was. She could be, at times, a little intimidating with
a sharp tongue and harsh exterior. But, it only took a few minutes
with her to realize that it really was just on the outside. Inside,
Mom had a heart of gold and one that was easily broke.
It is here that I would like to begin the telling of my
mothers story. It's not an easy thing to do as she lived so
much of her life before I came into the picture. So many chapters
to be written from childhood to death, and so many adventures to tell
about. One of the things Mom loved most to tell was about her many job experiences,
as she did so many different things in her life time. I hope there will be
others out there to help me see this endeaver to it's end. What you
see below is how I would like to have this story written.
Beware of constant change until it is
finished (which will be never, I'm sure).
Chapter 1: Childhood-Life
in Kansas
Chapter 2: The Single
Life-Life as Darlene Hofenstine
Chapter 3: Life
from 1952 -1990: Darlene Gutzman, life with my Dad
Chapter 4: Alone
again- not quiet the way she pictured it
Chapter 5:
Dec 1999 - May 2000: Her untimely death and the events leading
up to it.
Part 1: Benkleman
Part 2: Denver and back home
Part 3: Her final days
Photo albums:
Hers and Ours