Preserving our Past
I firmly believe that we are the generation that is to bridge the gap between the generation before us and to the younger generation coming on behind us. Let's not leave behind a lot of children who have no idea at all about their family heritage. So with that in mind, I want to put up some stones for those Haddock - unmarked - graves.
Since I first
posted this page we've done Zachariah and family at Eagle Rock and Charles Jr.
at New Site. We are not finished because still have some more Haddock graves to
mark. It's such a good feeling to know that some of us care about
preserving our past and are doing positive things to help. Thank you to all that
helped for your time and money that completed the two cemetery stone projects
that are mentioned below.
Noah Haddock 1842 - 1909 b: March 14, 1842 in Barry Co., Missouri d: October 07, 1909 in Wheaton, Barry Co., Missouri Burial: October 08, 1909 Chitwood Cemetery, Barry Co., MO +Harriet Crumley 1840 - 1888 b: March 30, 1840 in Habersham Co., Georgia d: July 02, 1888 in Wheaton, Barry Co., Missouri Burial: July 03, 1888 Chitwood Cemetery, Barry Co., MO m: April 21, 1861 in Barry Co., Missouri - Sand Stone markers with NH and HH craved on them
We still need
a marker for these two graves.
Charles Haddock, Jr. 1809 - 1862 b: 1809 in Pitt Co., North Carolina d: July 16, 1862 in Near Garfield, Benton Co., AR Burial: New Site Cemetery, Capps Creek Twp., Barry Co., MO [no stone] +Sarah Collins 1815 - 1851 b: Abt. 1815 in Warren Co., Kentucky d: Abt. January 1851 in Barry Co., Missouri Burial: New Site Cemetery, Capps Creek Twp., Barry Co., MO [Sand Stone] m: August 14, 1830 in Boone Co., Missouri - Sarah has sand stone. Charles - no stone. [I remember that my dad told me that the family had said that there wasn't any use of marking his grave - all there was there was a few bones.]
*2nd Wife of Charles Haddock, Jr.: +Susan Meyers 1823 - 1900 b: April 25, 1823 in Armstrong County, PA d: December 23, 1900 in Barry Co., Missouri Burial: New Site Cemetery, Barry Co., MO m: March 1852 in Barry Co., Missouri
Below is the stone we placed at Charles and Sarah's graves. We included Joel [their little son, who died at about 9 months old] on the stone. His grave is the one in the photo given above that is marked with the large flat stone lying on top. When I was there in the early summer the stone on top of his grave was not broken, but now in Oct of 2004 it is broken. I think that in the last few weeks, someone has probably lifted the stone and then apparently dropped it back down, which resulted in the breaking of it.
That little grave has been there since 1851 and no one has bothered it - not even in the worst of times - and now in our modern times when people are supposed to be educated and have some sense some one comes along and apparently lifts it - drops it - and then breaks it. This was probably a family member - because who else would be interested in it?
The bad news is there are still stupid people out there - even in our family!
The good news is that there are some really neat and great people out there and, yes, in our family - and they donated the money to put this beautiful memorial stone at New Site. After all these years our [great-great in most cases] grandparents now have a cemetery marker.
It is the warmest and nicest feeling to know that I was a part of this project and that our Haddock grand parents finally have the recognition of their family and community. This was long over due and was definitely deserved long ago. Most of you know the story and that Charles died at the hands of bushwhackers. The family story goes that he was said to have burned to death while hanging from a tree. The story says that the killers never found the gold but that he died anyway.
See the story below - taken from Haddock Heritage, Third Edition and from Mills Heritage, both books by Donna Haddock Cooper, 2004
One family story says
that Charles Haddock, Jr. had gone to Arkansas to deliver horses or to sell
horses, according to family legend, when he was killed by Union soldiers and the
story says that his slave, Steve, brought him home. And also, today, the story
goes on to say that he was buried at Walnut Grove in the yard. Charles called
his home place Walnut Grove, but there was also a Walnut Grove School. The
school came somewhat later but was just up the road from his house, which was
located in the Hudson bottoms. And also, it has been discovered that Walnut
Grove was what a lot of people were calling New Site Cemetery. And it was
already known that they were calling the church New Site but not that they where
referring to the cemetery as Walnut Grove. In the early Callaway Funeral Home
records New Site Cemetery was sometimes referred to as Walnut Grove Yard or
Walnut Grove Cemetery Yard. This is probably where the confusion came that
Charles Haddock, Jr. was buried at the home place or at his residence, which was
he called Walnut Grove. More than likely he was buried by Sarah, his first wife,
at New Site Cemetery or as, in those days, might have said that he was buried at
Walnut Grove Cemetery Yard. And also after visiting with the family who lives on
Charles Haddock's home place, it's more than obvious that there are no graves at
the Walnut Grove home site. The family story goes on today and states that some
of Rachel (Haddock) Banks' descendants still live on the home place and all that
data fits with the legend that has been handed down by the family.
When Charles buried Sarah at Walnut Grove - New Site - he had not purchased the land yet and it was still in the ownership of John Meeks until a few years later at which time Charles bought it and it became publicly known as a cemetery. The Haddock graves are near the west boundary and near the road and near where almost all of Charles and Sarah's children are buried. Recent rubbings of those early sandstone makers have provided very much new and needed information, and along with the photo work of Gary Ball, new information has now come to the surface. The infant Joel, or as the stone reads "Jeol [sic] Haddock", is buried in the small grave with a flat cover. There is an unmarked grave next to Sarah, which is likely, the grave site of Charles Haddock, Jr. Sarah's, worn from weather, sand stone reads "Mother, Sarah Haddock". In 1850 on the Federal Census Joel is listed as 6 mos old and family legend has it he died at about 9 mos old. That would likely have been Jan or Feb of 1851. Sarah and Joel are, without a doubt, the first people buried there. From the deed records, it is now known that Charles purchased the land after the death of Sarah.
September 26, 1863 is the date that the Haddock family has for Charles Haddock's death, but as one can see, the church minutes state that he died "South, 16 July 1862". Those minutes were recorded before the 1863 date so it's appears that the family may have the wrong death date. Because of the of the way that Charles died, it may have been a questionable date. The church minutes did not state the source they used for the date and that they recorded. So we are left to assume the family gave the date to the church. This story is one that is probably pretty close to what happened, because it was told within more than one branch of the family. Charles Haddock, Jr. was left hanging from a tree in Benton County, AR near Garfield to die. Legend has it that the bushwhackers wanted the gold that he'd collected from horses that he'd sold to the Union Army. He'd hidden in the house in the feather bed and once in the barn when they'd come for him. He decided that he'd have to leave the county so he told about in the community that he was going to Pitt County, NC where he had relatives but the bushwhackers caught up with him somewhere near Garfield. They tied his hands and to a limb and left him hanging with a fire burning under him. The freed black man named Steve who lived on the place took a pack mule and went to Arkansas to find him. He brought his bones back and buried him at Walnut Grove - now called New Site.
With the help of the computer it is known that the flat stone reads Joel Haddock, and that the other sand stone reads Mother Sarah Haddock
We honor our grandmother and grandfather Haddock with this memorial stone.
Charles Haddock, Sr. 1784 - 1859 b: Abt. 1784 in Pitt County, North Carolina d: September 06, 1859 in Redfield, Bourbon Co., KS Burial: Mt Oram, Redfield, Bourbon Co., KS [no stone] +Penelope Mills 1784 - 1860 b: Abt. 1784 in Craven County, North Carolina d: Bef. 1860 in Redfield, Bourbon County, Kansas Burial: Mt Oram, Redfield, Bourbon Co., KS [no stone] m: 1804 in Pitt County, North Carolina
We still need some markers for these unmarked graves, which are at Mt Oram.
Let's all join together and preserve our family history.
As a family we bought this memorial cemetery stone for Haddock Cemetery
If you want to help with this project.
Write to me
e-mail and I'll tell you where to send your donation.
Talk to me.
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by Donna Haddock Cooper
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