ESTHER PALMER |
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Home of Roswell Palmer in Seward twp. Winnebago County where the Palmers settled after coming to Illinois in the 1850's. This photo was taken in the 1930's just before it was torn down. |
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Roswell Palmer and children
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Roswell Palmer's headstone in the Twelve Mile Grove Cemetery in Pecatonica, Winnebago Co. Illinois.
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| Esther
Palmer was born July 29, 1830 in Exeter, Rhode Island,
the daughter of Roswell Palmer and Abigail Barber.
Roswell Palmer was married 3 times, widowed twice and had
a total of 15 children. Esther was the oldest of 5
children from his first marriage. She had 4 younger
brothers, George, James, Charles, and William. Their
mother passed away in 1838 from Typoid Fever after having
given birth to William, who also died the same day. One
month later her 3 year old brother, Charlie, was playing
too close to the fireplace, caught his clothes on fire
and died of burns several hours later. After her
mothers's death Esther spent a lot of time in Exeter, RI
with her Barber grandparents and moved back and forth
from there to Norwich, CT to be with her father. In 1843
her father married his second wife, Ann E. Parker.
Together they had 6 children; Abby, Harriet, Charles,
Laura, Amos, and Amos. Only the 3 older children survived
to adulthood. In 1849 Esther's father and step-mother decided to move west to Illinois. Esther's brother George had gone to Illinois some time earlier and urged the rest of the family to join him. They sold all their belongings and intended to meet up with him in Illinois, but when they arrived they found he had left for California with the Gold Rush and he was never heard from again. The Palmers arrived in
Stephenson county, IL sometime in 1849 and settled in the
town of Ridott. They were living there when the census
was taken in 1850. In 1851 Esther's step-mother, Ann,
passed away. Soon after Roswell moved the family to
Winnebago County and purchased a farm in Seward township.
Esther helped her father take care of the younger
children until he re-married in August of 1852 to Rhoda
Daniels. Esther herself married in December of that same
year to John Clark. Roswell Palmer and Rhoda Daniels had
4 more children; Celia, William, Sarah, and Etta. Very
little is known about the children from this last
marriage. The following stories are just two of many Esther wrote over her lifetime. Here she relates memories of her early childhood while living in Connecticut. the death of her mother in 1839, and the tragic death of her little brother Charley two months later. The second story relates the move from Connecticut to Illinois after her father's re-marriage to Ann Parker. |
| My earliest
recollections are of my mother. She was always kind
and good and I do not know as she ever spoke an unkind
word to me. I was very young when she was taken
away, but I remember many happy hours spent with my
mother. As far back as I can remember we lived in a large
old-fashioned house with a cellar kitchen. This
room our mother gave us children to play in. There was a
good cupboard in one corner with glass doors in the upper
part and filled with nice shelves, and here we would
treasure up all the broken bits of glass and crockery to
play keeping house with. My grandmother had given me a
little dinner pot that would hold about a quart and
sometimes when there was a fire in the cellar kitchen
Mother would let me have a boiled dinner, and I thought I
was quite a woman as I was washing my cabbage and
potatoes, and wondered if Father and Mother would not
want some of it when it was done. One night when my father had been absent
all day and my mother was expecting him home, she told us
children we must go to bed early so we would not disturb
him, and if we were good perhaps he would bring us
something nice. So we hurried off to our little
beds and Mother set and sung to us until we were fast
asleep. In the morning Mother told me I could look
around in the sitting room and see if Father had brought
me anything. So I looked all around and at last I spied a
pair of small white kid gloves behind the glass.
What a prize for a little girl like me. I could
hardly wait for Sunday to come so I could wear
them. At another time when Father had been away he
brought me a little silver thimble. I had never had
anything in my life I was more proud of, and I tried to
be so good for a long time to pay Father for being so
good giving me such a nice present. At another time
Mother gave me a beautiful little black silk apron.
It had little pockets trimmed with fringe and buttons,
and about the same time she gave me a pair of wide
morrocco slippers that I thought were so pretty. Father
commenced building a house for himself about this
time. It was about a half a mile from where we were
living. I remember how pleased I used to be to go over
with Mother and see the men at work and walk all around
the garden and Mother leading me by the hand. There was a little
brook between the two places. I always felt so safe when Mother led
me by the hand over the little stepping stones, and some times when it
was warm and pleasant we would sit down under the tall shady tree that
grew in little clusters by the quiet brook and Mother would tell me
stories. Some times my little brothers would go with us, and when we had
played in the clear water until we were tired we would run around the
little grove and see which could get the prettiest flowers for Mother,
and she would take them home and keep them until they were so withered
they had to be thrown away. When we had been in our new
house about one year, Mother was sent for to go to Rhode
Island and see a brother who was sick with the Typhoid
Fever. So she went and stayed with him until he was
better. When she came home she was not very well and it
was not long before she too was sick. Only us
children had to keep very still while we were in the
house. One day we had all been out to play for a long
time when Aunt Dinah came to the door and told us our
mother wanted to see us, but we must go very still, for
she was very sick. When we went into the room
Father was kneeling down by the bed with one of Mother's
hands in his. He was crying and saying he could not
give her up. Mother called us to her and gave each
of us a kiss and said we must be good children, for she
was going to leave us. Then we were all sent out of
the room again. There was two or three physicians
in the room with Mother. They all stood at the foot of
the bed. I was so astonished to see them that I did
not know what to do. After a little while we were told
our mother was dead and that we had a little baby brother
and that he was dead too. Oh, Dear how bad we all felt
when we heard our dear mother was dead and we could never
speak to her again! Mother was in the south room
and we all stood by the door in the kitchen, for we
wanted to be as near to Mother as we could (George,
James, Charley, and myself). It seemed as if I
could never move again when they told us Mother was dead,
but I soon had to, for they told us we must go down to
Aunt Dinah's who lived just a few rods below our house.
Charley was the youngest and Aunt said that our mother
could take care of him no more and now I must do all I
could for him. I took his little hand and led him
down to Aunts. George and Jim kept close to me all the
way as if they too must look to me for care and
protection. I was only 8 years old, but I was old
enough to know that we had lost our dearest and best
friend and to wonder what would become of us now, and so
we walked along without saying a word to each
other. We stayed down to Aunt's until night, then
we were told we could go home again. But oh, what a
dreary home it was. No dear Mother to welcome us,
and Father almost beside himself with grief, could only
cry over us and call us his little mother-less
children.The next day my Grandmother came from Rhode
Island and took care of us for a few days. The
funeral sermon was to be preached down to Grandmother's,
for she said Mother must be laid in the family burying
ground. Aunt Hannah made all the arrangements for
the funeral while Grandmother was with us. This was
a sad day for us all, but more so for Father, he could
not be reconciled at all. It seemed so hard to give
Mother up. Many times on the journey he exclaimed
"Oh, where are we going?". It was night
when we arrived at the old homestead, tired and
weary. But many loving friends and neighbors from
far and near were at the funeral. Our dear mother
was hidden away from our sight forever. After the funeral
I spent a few weeks with my Grandmother, who wished to
keep me all the time, but I could not stay, for I loved
my father dearly and little brothers I missed
sadly. So Grandfather said he would take me home
for a visit. One of my cousins was keeping house
for Father, and my aunts who lived near would advise her
on how to manage, for she was young, only about
sixteen. So we got along nicely for a time. Norwich, Wednesday 16, 1839 Dear Father and Mother, The tidings I am about to write you are heartrending to me, but they are the doings of a just God. I think that my redeemer has spoken peace to my soul, and blessed be his name. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. My little Charley has gone to see his mother. He told me when I had him in my arms a short time before his death, "I want to go to Mama". I believe the little darling is with his mother in glory. I have no time to write but a few lines. Yesterday about 10 o'clock I started to go to the city. I went to the mill and had not gotten out of the wagon when Deacon (Ranows) came to me and told me that Charley was burned and he did not think he could live until I reached him. I went as fast home as possible. When I arrived - but oh the feelings one but a parent can tell - I found the little darling in his aunt Dinah's arms wrapped in a sheet burned to a crisp. "Oh, Papa", he said. My heart was broken. Seneth was washing when I went away. She left him alone and went down to Dinah's a few moments. When she came back he stood in the kitchen with not a rag of clothes. His stockings were burnt to his shoes. This was about 12 o'clock and he died at 7 o'clock. Oh, George my brother, remember thy creator and harden not thy heart. Hannah and Eason, smile with one in the cause of Jesus. Tomorrow we are coming to bring him down to let you see the last remains of a roasted child. This from your affectionate son. Roswell Palmer. All pray for me. The next day Charley was laid in his little coffin dressed in a white robe instead of the nice new clothes they had made for him to wear to visit Grandmother. A good many of our relatives and friends went with us on our sad journey and many more met us at the house and wept with us as we laid him beside our dear mother in the family graveyard. After a few days Father went back to Norwich, and brother George and I stayed with Grandmother a few months. When Father went back home he shut up the house and he and brother Jim boarded with Aunt Dinah. Our little cousins attended school, so in a week or two we went with them, and if it had not been for the loss of our dear mother and Charlie we would have had nice times. The house was quite large. In front was an old oak tree whose branches spread a long way and formed such a nice shady place for us children, and just beyond the tree was a nice little pond with large slate stones all around the edge that made such good seats where we would fish, but I never caught only one. I never had good success. We had a large boat that was fastened by a long rope to the shore. The boat was in the water and shaded by the leafy boughs of the old tree. Sometimes we would all get in and play we were out at sea and would make the boat move all we could without letting the boat loose - that we never did. About half a mile from the house was the cranberry bog where we used to go every year and gather the bright red berries for winter use. One day Uncle said he would take us all out there if we wanted to go. We were all delighted. (I have written about the sail we had there, as well as my visit to Newport in another place). During this time Esther's father re-married to Ann E. Parker (1840). After we came back from Newport, I went
back to Norwichtown and spent the summer with my father.
My step-mother was very good to me and I had nice times
with the school girls. We lived in a nice large
house, the largest on the street. We had plenty of
room so I could have a place all to myself when the girls
came to see me. The people were nearly all wealthy
and so they let their little girls have parties.
All the school girls were invited but one, she was a bad
girl so no one would have her at the parties. We
would sometimes march on the sidewalk, when we went past
her house she would come to the door and make faces at
us. One morning while we lived in this house I was told I had a little sister come in the night, I was wonderfully pleased. We named her after our mothers; Abbie for mine and Ann was for her. (note: The new baby was named Abigail after Esther's mother who had died from Typhoid Fever, the middle name was Ann after Esther's step-mother, Ann Parker). I was always willing to take care of her while she was little and thought there was no one like her. After a while we moved to Franklin, a nice little town 12 miles from Norwich. Here we had a nice home. Father, Mother, and brother George sang in the choir and the singers would oftimes meet at our house and have nice times singing beautiful songs. I spent nearly half my time with Grandmother in Rhode Island and summers in Norwich City. Following is a story Esther wrote for her daughter, Ella Clark Crockett, telling of the move from Connecticut to Illinois in 1849. My little
daughter, as you always like to have me tell you stories
about myself I think I will tell you about our journey
out west, it was in 1849. My oldest brother, your
Uncle George, had been out west nearly a year and he had
repeatedly urged your grandfather to sell out where we
were and move to the far West, as it was called by the
people of the Eastern states. So, after considering
the subject and consulting all his friends, your
grandfather finally concluded to leave his native place
and go to a new country where all was strange and new and
where there was not a single person he had ever seen or
heard of in that far off land he had resolved to make his
future home, except your Uncle George. It was a lovely April day that we left Windham. I remember how much I enjoyed the ride and how I admired the beautiful river that was to be seen for several miles. It was late in the afternoon when we arrived in the old town we all loved so well. Aunt had long been looking for us and tea had been waiting so long a time they had just concluded to sit down without us. We had not seen each other in a good while, so we enjoyed ourselves very much over a good cup of tea. It took us two or three days to get things arranged so we could be comfortable while we should remain, and then we commenced visiting and receiving company and many a good visit did we have up to Uncle Russell's and with my cousins in the city and with all our friends in the town. Uncle Luther's house was a three-story building and commanded a delightful view of the country for miles around. Norwich had always been my home. Tis true Father had lived away in other places for several years but we considered Norwich as our native place. It was a bright morning when Father and brother James and myself started in a nice buggy to pay our last visit to our Rhode Island friends. We had a pleasant ride as we passed along the old familiar road and wondered if this would be our last visit to the dear old home. Grandmother was expecting us so she had a good warm supper for us which we enjoyed very much. The first thing that my grandmother said to Father was, "Now Roswell, you must not take these children away out west. If you do I shall never see them again". We both told her we were sorry to leave her and all the rest, but we were as anxious to go as Father was to have us. We stayed two days and took a last look at everything that time would allow us to. It was hard to leave all these dear old places, but the time had come and after a parting kiss from all our friends we left with many a hearty wish for a safe journey to our western home. My Grandmother had made me promise that I would come back in one year and had given me money to come with so she was more reconciled to my going, but many was the tears she shed at our parting and many was the years before we met again. All our visits being made and all things being ready, we bid our friends good-by and started for a distant country. It was a pleasant afternoon when we all seated ourselves in a large carriage that was to convey us to the boat that was to start at 4 o'clock that afternoon. We took passage on the "Knickerbocker", a splendid boat. The ladies cabin was richly furnished. A beautiful carpet of brilliant rose buds covered the floor, sofas and chairs of the richest kind, while large mirrors were at either ends of the room. We stayed on deck and watched the city until it faded from our view and we began to feel that we had in earnest commenced our journey and had left home and friends behind. Swiftly the boat glided over the water, and it was not long before we were at Allen's Point. We stopped to wait for the passengers that were to come by the cars to this place. Here all that chose left the boat for a short time. This was a dirty little place. It was wild and lonesome and we did not care to stay long in so an uninviting spot. At 9 o'clock the cars came dashing along and the passengers were soon transferred from the cars to the old "Knickerbocker" and we were once more in motion. Daylight found us all up and admiring the delightful sunrise. Golden clouds were floating through the air which were reflected on the water, which caused it to appear like the hues of the rainbow. I have never seen anything so beautiful and lovely as the view from this noble steamer. As we were approaching New York beneath us was the sparkling water of the Long Island Sound, while directly in front of us was the great city of New York, which seemed entirely surrounded by shipping of all description, while beyond the tall masts of the ships it appeared to be one solid mass of houses as far as the eye could see. The tall spires of the churches were rising above the housetops and glittering in the sunlight as it came peeping out from the rosy clouds in the east. On the opposite side was Brooklyn and Williamsburg, both beautiful places. I thought it would be delightful to wander over Brooklyn Heights and look away down the bay and see the grand old ocean. As one neared the wharf the hackman crowded around the boat in such numbers that it was unsafe for the passengers to leave the boat unless they knew how to deal with them. There was an old lady with her son and daughter that was nearly frightened out of their wits by them. These hackman knew at a glance that these people were not accustomed to the ways of traveling, so as soon as their trunks and carpet bags were placed on shore, these fellows gathered around them and each one was determined that they should go with them. Two or three took the young man by the arms at the same time, declaring he should go with them, while the old lady and her daughter seated themselves on the trunks to prevent the drivers from taking them away from them by force. The policemen had to interfere, and by their aid they selected a hack and gladly left the boat until the crowd had dispersed. Then we quietly passed through the streets of this great and beautiful city. We took passage on the "Alida", a splendid boat, and was soon on the clear waters of the proud old Hudson that I had so much longed to see. This boat was splendidly furnished and had large broad promenade decks, and here I passed the greater part of my time. We passed the ill-fated "Empire" that was sunk the night we left Norwich. Only the masts and the smokestack were to be seen. This was the boat that we had intended to have taken passage in, but something prevented us from starting at the appointed time, so by this means were saved from a watery grave. There was one family by the name of Ladd on the boat who had agreed to meet us in Albany. They thought as long as they were all ready they would not stay in Norwich while we finished our arrangements, but would stop in Albany until we arrived. We arrived in Albany all safe and spent. Three or four days there and well did I improve this opportunity of viewing and admiring this great and handsome place. Here Mr. Ladd overtook us again after seeing his friends safely on board a boat that was to convey them to their Connecticut home once more. From Albany we were going to Buffalo on the Erie Canal, so after looking around among the boats, Father found one he had thought would suit us. After we had been on board a short time they began to tell us their rules and regulations and used language that did not please us at all, and after observing them a while Father became convinced that we could not go so long a journey with such characters. So he told the boatman if they had no objections they would engage another boat to take us to Buffalo, but they objected, and declared we should not leave. Father said no more but at once went and engaged the police and by their aid we found a good respectable boat, and while our things were being transferred from one boat to the other the police stood guard and no one dared molest or interfere with us. The boat that we now went on was a very good one and the men were all well behaved. Soon after this we passed by the place where one of your grandfather's brothers used to live. He left home when he was first married and they had never seen him since, and this was years before but he was dead now and we had not time to hunt up his children whom we were told were living in the neighborhood. We all stayed on deck for a long time and viewed the country which we all admired and thought it would be a nice country to live in. We arrived in Buffalo after a pleasant trip through a very pleasant country and went immediately on board a large boat. It was called the "A.D. Patchin". It was a splendid boat. The ladies cabin was richly furnished. The floor was covered with a bright carpet, sofa and chairs of crimson velvet and ottomans of the same material were placed around the sides of the room, while in one portion of the room was the large extension table, and in other parts were center tables, a piano, and melodeon. Large mirrors that reached from ceiling to floor were at either end of the apartment and in each door that opened into richly furnished staterooms was a small looking glass with gilt frames. At one end of the room was a broad staircase that led down to a large room that was called the nursery. Here the mother's went with their babies and little children when they began to be tired and wanted to go to sleep. In this room was a large showcase filled with all manner of pretty things for sale. As we were preparing to leave port the boiler burst. The Captain said if we had been out of port and had on full power of steam we would have all been lost. It was Sunday and everything was quiet and still and we had a good opportunity to see the citizens as they walked leisurely to their different places of worship. In the afternoon a party of us went out to walk on the shore and see the different parts of the town. The water of Erie and St. Clare are of a greenish cast, while those of the Huron and Michigan are almost black. I never enjoyed myself better in my life than while going around the lakes. The water was as smooth as glass. All the time, except the Sabbath, we spent in Milwaukee and then the waves seemed dancing and chasing each other in great glee as they sparkled in the bright sunbeams. Sometimes we were entirely out of sight of land, and then again we would be passing beautiful cities or romantic little villages. We all enjoyed it very much and was sorry when the boat landed at Southport, the place we had concluded to stop at, for the Cholera was raging fearfully in Chicago, so we thought it best not to go there, but stop at the last port this side. After taking a last look at the old boat that had brought us safely round the beautiful lakes we all seated ourselves in a hack and was conveyed to the Mansion House where we remained two days. While we remained here we were out a great deal admiring the lake views and going all over the city. The next morning as I came up from breakfast into the sitting room I saw two young girls come out of my room, which opened into the parlor. I did not feel very well pleased with them for going in without permission but they apologized and were so sociable and agreeable that I thought it folly to be offended. They were nice pretty girls but I found by their conversations they had run away from their home because something had gone wrong. They had come on the boat from someplace, I forgot where, and they were going on still farther, I did not learn where, for as soon as I found out they were runaways I thought it best not to be too intimate with them, for your grandfather did not like them at all after he found they had left their homes in this way. From Southport we went 30 miles into the country to a small town called Richmond. It was situated in a beautiful grove with a noisy little river just at the edge and within sight of the Richmond House where we spent three days. I never saw such pretty wild flowers in my life as I saw as we were going from Southport to Richmond. It was one perfect flower garden for miles. A good part of the way was through a forest of tall and stately trees where hundreds of birds made the woods ring with their sweet melody and the beautiful vines and flowers filled the air with their fragrance. It was a lovely ride and we all enjoyed it very much. Your grandfather thought it would be best for us to board in a private family so after looking around a little he found a place we could be accommodated. Here we had a parlor and a bedroom so we were quite comfortable for the short time we remained. We all did very well in the daytime but at night it was not so pleasant, for it fell to my lot to go to one of the neighbor's to sleep. It was but a few steps but I did not like it much, for I did not lilke the lady of the house. She seemed so cross, but she had two pretty daughters and one son I liked them very much.While we were here I went to a camp meeting with a party of young people. It was at Woodstock, a small town about 15 miles from Richmond. We had a grand time. This was in the neighborhood of the place where your Uncle George resided while he was in Illinois, but he was gone now and we had not time to go to the place. I was disappointed, for I was in hopes to go there and see the place where he had lived. After we had been here a while Father and Mr. Bibbon's started Monday morning to hunt up a place to buy. They were gone until Saturday night. Father was wonderfully pleased with the country he had seen in his travels. He bought 160 acres of the handsomest land he had ever seen and the next Monday morning we would start for our new home. That night little brother Amos was taken sick. We thought it nothing but a cold, but in a day or so it proved to be the measles. We thought he was getting along well, for the doctor had been to see him and left him some medicine and said he thought there was no danger. He was so he could sit with his father and look around and see the other children play, when all at once he was taken worse and he died in an hour after the doctor left. We all mourned sadly for him, for he was the baby and we all made a pet of him and he would repay us by throwing his little arms around our necks and kissing us so lovingly that we could not help but love him dearly. We buried him in Richmond in a beautiful grave. It was a lovely place with tall stately trees where the little birds loved to congregate and sing o'er the graves of the sleeping dead. Here the wild flowers grew in the greatest profusion and filled the air with its sweet scented breath. It was delightful spot to leave the dear one as long as he had to be left, but oh, how hard it seemed to continue our journey and to think one of our little flock had been left behind. The next morning after the funeral we started for Rockford. About 10 o'clock I was taken sick and could hardly hold my head up. At noon we came to a nice little town where we all stopped to take dinner, but I was so sick I could not go to the table with the rest, but had to lay down on the lounge in the sitting room where I could look through a door into the dining room and see the long table loaded down with good things and seven or eight vases of gay bright flowers which made the table look very attractive. Before Father set down to the table he went to get a physician who gave him some medicine for me and in an hour or two I was better so I could sit up and continue our journey. I do not remember much about the country that we passed through that day. At night we came to a little town and stopped at a large house, I forget the name, but it was a pretty town. This was a stage house where a good many stages stopped daily. The landlady, after finding out who we were, claimed some relationship with us. She seemed wonderfully pleased with me and said if I would come and spend a few weeks with her after we got settled she would pay my expenses if I would come on the stage, but I never went and I have never heard from her since. The next night we reached Belvidere. The first thing that attracted our attention was an Indian before a large house for a sign. Here we stayed overnight and in the morning proceeded on our journey. We began to be tired so we were anxious to reach Rockford where we thought we would spend the summer. We were all perfectly charmed with the country and your grandfather said he would not go back to Connecticut for the best farm they could give him. It was about 3 o'clock in the afternoon when we came in sight of the city. We went directly to the Rockford House and here we stayed one week. While we were here two of the children had the measles but they were not very sick. We had a large front chamber comfortably furnished where we had a good view of the east side of the town. The house was crowded all the time we were there and with so much company we had no time to be homesick. Your Uncle James and myself oftimes had pleasant walks up and down the beautiful river that runs through the center of town, but I do not need tell you anything about this pretty town, for you have been there a great many times yourself and know all about it. Your grandfather looked all over the town to find a house for us to live in but there was so many strangers coming into the place they were all occupied, so then Father thought he would go back in the country a little way and see if he could not get a place to live. While he was getting ready to go someone told him Deacon Weld from the Twelve Mile Grove was there and perhaps he knew of a place, so someone gave your grandfather an introduction to him and after conversing a short time Father invited him into our room and asked him if he knew of any place where he could hire a house. He said "No", unless he took us home with him. He said he had a large new house and he would let us have part of it as he and an only daughter lived there alone, and if we wanted to come he would hurry home and make preparations. The next day Father engaged teams and sent our goods and one or two of the children and myself. I did not want to go alone among strangers but Father said it was best to have someone to see to our things. I was sorry to leave Rockford, for it was the prettiest western town we had seen and we had hoped to make it our home, but it was not to be, so I started once more and this time for a home in the Twelve Mile Grove. It was night when we arrived at my new home. I felt sad and lonely to be away from Father and Mother but they could not be with me, for one of the children was sick and they had to stay in Rockford until they were able to ride. After supper I went into the front rooms and looked out into a large front yard and in viewing this moonlight scene I became reconciled to my new home. I liked Deacon Weld and his daughter very well and many pleasant hours did we spend together. Father and the rest of the family came in a few days and it was not long before we had everything arranged so we could set at our table once more. And here I will end my story, for we always made the Grove our home and when we reached this place that was the end of our journey. |