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|Anne Mott Moore||
Drawing of Mrs Emmor Haines, first president of the Women's Christian Association of Buffalo.
|Born: 19 June 1818 Rochester, Monroe Co., NY
|Married: 27 Sept 1843
|Died: Abt 1900 Buffalo, Erie, New York|
1. Mary Moore Haines
b. 31 July 1844 Shelby, Orleans, NY
d. 01 Feb 1845
2. Alfred Haines b. 08 May 1846 Rochester, Monroe Co., NY
3. Mary Moore Haines
b. 15 Feb 1849 Somerset, Somerset, PA
d. 08 Jan 1863
4. Anna Haines
b. 11 May 1852 Lycoming, PA
d. 18 Jan 1863
5. Lindley M Haines
b. 09 Oct 1859 Lycoming, PA
d. 02 Apr 1865
Notes on Ann Mott Moore
By Susan Brooke
Edward, Gilbert and Ann were the three oldest children of Lindley Murray Moore and his wife Abigail. Edward was precocious and gained the attention given to first borns. Gilbert seems to never have excelled in the school room. Ann received a good education and helped her mother a lot, but she may not have been a star student either. But then it is possible Edward wasn't either. In a 1837 letter home to his parents he wrote, regarding Murray's education He was in medical school and would go on to become a well respected physician. "I wish now that I had not been such as dunce as I was at his age & refused to study." (1) Ann may have been the same kind of student. When her mother, Abigail, made some comment in 1837 about Ann wanting to go to Oberlin College, Edward wrote back, "As for Ann's going there, it is the very quintessence of folly, but I suppose she was jesting." (2) In 1834, when Ann was 16, her mother wrote, "Ann is the same kind of disinterested girl as ever, as to her personal appearance thou knows, grandmother says she is a great pet with her Market St. friends, as a proof, notice the following, we received a letter from Uncle Robert a few days since, in which he says, that if we will permit Ann to return and spend the winter with them, he will pay her expenses down. -- Sarah says she has nothing but a multitude of thanks to offer but I think we shall be too selfish to consent to her leaving us so soon." (3) Ann must have been very helpful to her mother and to her aunts.
Ann also must have been a voracious reader. Her sister Mary makes reference to their reading tricks in a letter to Ann in 1839. Mary wrote to Ann, "I would play the old trick of leaving the beds unmade to read." indicating that both girls liked to read in their beds. And Ann certainly reasoned, questioned and argued as well as anyone in that family. In 1838 Ann wrote to Edward, "I was not aware that Mother had told thee any thing about my religious notions and either she has told thee more than she ought or thou hast inferred more than was warrantable for judging by the letter one might suppose that thou thought that I was just ready to leave the society, if I had not already done so, which is very far from the truth as the minutia distinguishing us from the other society, and vice versa, have claimed but a small share of my thoughts, there are great fundamental doctrines which afford ample room for reflection ------. At times I have had some conversations with Mother in regard to the ordinances and have expressed myself as not altogether agreeing with friends, but that is nothing more than what I have heard thee do and if thou now looks upon it as a weakness in my judgment thou must recollect that thou wast once guilty of the same weakness and hope that I too will increase in wisdom, as I have no doubt I shall if thou will give me the advantage of thy society." (4) In this same letter, Abigail took up the pen when Ann finished, and wrote, "Ann has her compliment (of students) and says she cannot tell how teachers who have from 50 to 80 get through, for she has her hands full with 12, one very important fact is that she does not allow her children to be idle during school hours, whereas in many schools they are not employed more than half of the time. Ann now talks of teach'g six months from the time she commenced and then going to school herself." (4)
Ann may have wanted to go on to higher education, but the family's finances were limited at this time. Two months later in Sept 1838 her mother wrote to Edward, "(Ann) begins to talk about engagements for the winter, she told me last evening that she had pretty much made up her mind to open her school again, several of her employers are anxious to know - she feels as if she could not remain idle and to go to school elsewhere than Rochester is quite out of the question. Grandmother is very anxious to have her go to Philadelphia, but that we are not willing for unless we could pay her board." (5)
Ann was a loving teacher, and her students adored her. In October of 1838 Abigail wrote, "Ann's school claims most of her attention these short days, she has been so earnestly entreated to enlarge her number that she has consented and now has 16, as many as her room can accommodate, had she a larger room, she could have many more - - - Did thou see when thou wast home one of Ann little scholars who had been burnt in her neck which caused her chin to be drawn down by a quantity of thick skin, and consequently it was with difficulty she could close her mouth - she is a niece of Dr. Kelseys, last fifth day Dr. Bristol cut out the skin and placed the head and neck in its proper position - before the operation there were several females offered to be with her, and her uniform answer was, she may be here, but Miss Moore must sit close by me, of course Ann could not refuse, the little creature came to school that day as usual and stayed as happy and cheerful as ever until the Dr.'s were ready and she and Ann were sent for, she made no resistance to being undressed and laid on the table, she manifested great fortitude through the whole time, several times however accusing her father and uncle (who were present) of telling falsehood, for she would say “you told me it would not hurt much and it does hurt most dreadfully” at one time Dr Ried laid down and ( ) said “you are a dear little philosopher,” she looked up at Ann and said “is that being a philosopher Miss Moore, to be hurt so?” Ann told her not being hurt, but bearing pain patiently made a philosopher, she replied “then I am trying to be a philosopher, for I am trying to be patient.” Ann stood by her and assisted in holding her through the whole of the operation - which lasted 3/4 of an hour, she was much exhausted before they got done, and dosed to sleep as soon as they got her clothes changed and laid her in the crib, she is six years old, and one of the loveliest children I ever saw. (6)
Throughout this time, while Ann was either teaching, or considering reopening her school, she was often sick. In September 1838 Abigail wrote to Edward, "Thy father and myself got home yesterday morning about eleven o'clock, found thy sister (Ann) better than when we left her, she had a comfortable night - but this morning she had quite a chill followed by considerable fever which now (3 o'clock) has very much subsided and she is quietly sleeping ---- 6 of the mo (September) 6th day evening. Ann has not had so comfortable a day as we all hoped and expected, some headaches and sickness at her stomach, no chill this morning nor perspiration this evening, some fever all day but not high. I gave her three of the quinine pills through the night, but when the Dr. came this morning he said we must give no more at present, but left her 6 small powders to be taken one in four hours. ---- Yesterday passed by without finding a few lines - some moments to keep up my diary, nursing, baking etc. occupying the whole time. Ann still continues to gain tho’ very slowly, she was dressed in an invalids dress this morning, and was drawn out in the room, she sat up ½ or 3/4 of an hour, she thought when she went to bed that she would get up again at dinner time, but when that time came she did not feel as if she could sit up, having more fever, her diarrhea continues unless she is under the influence of opium." Abigail wrote these letters over a period of days or even weeks, and by the time she finished this particular letter, Ann was better. (5)
Three months later, Ann was sick again. In December 1838 Abigail wrote to Edward, "Ann sometimes thinks she will also prepare herself for a teacher, and at other times she feels as tho she would not keep any longer than her present quarter, she has a company of fine little girls and they seem to love her very much; but for the last 10 days it has been very difficult for her to keep up her school (and indeed she has been obliged to omit it 3 or 4 days of that time) in consequence of her having a very sore mouth and throat, she was taken with a chill and sore throat, which swollen both inside and out the next day her moth and lips were covered with canker sores, and her lips swollen. ---- Her mouth, tongue lips & all became so much inflamed and painful that we concluded it best to call in Dr Ried, he said if he had seen her at first he should have bled her, but did not like to then, he gave her active medicine, ordered poultices and frequent fomentations, by which she was much relieved in 24 hours, at present neither swelling nor inflation remains, but many small sores on her gums." (7) In January 1839 Abigail wrote that Ann had an "ague in the face." And then in February, Abigail wrote to Edward, "I think when I wrote before Ann was just recovering from an attack of ague in her face, since then she has been pretty well until day before yesterday. She said her face felt sore and she feared she was going to have another turn, and went to work immediately hoping to prevent it from being as severe as the two previous turns, but notwithstanding she has suffered much both yesterday and today, her face is now much swollen and this evening she is more comfortable, I hope she will not suffer as she (did) before; she is now in bed and I have given her morphine enough to make her sleep, particularly as she slept but little last night. ---- 22md Thou will perceive by the date that days have passed by since the above was written and during that most of the time Ann has been a great sufferer. The next morning after I had so faithfully nursed her up, she arose apparently much better, but she had not been up long before she became sick at her stomach and shortly after a chill came on followed by a light fever which continued through the day and night and her face swelled to such a degree that there was scarcely any trace of herself left. One eye closed and the other one nearly as her upper lip seemed as if it would burst open. I never saw any one look so much like an idiot that was not so, when her father came home at night he said he could not look at her without shuddering; by constant application of warm poultices etc the next day the swelling began to decrease and the pain abate, but her head was so sore as to be scarcely able to lay on the pillow - yesterday she was up most of the day and began to eat with some degree of comfort today she has gone in her school even tho her face is still some swollen and sore, but no pain. This the third attack she has had since thou wast home; I think it proceeds from an ulcerated eye tooth although it appears sound. I think there must be some defect at the root and I have urged her having it taken out as soon as her face is well and have a false one put in its place." (8)
Abigail had her hands full with Mary, Murray and Ann all sick, and she was beginning to get the symptoms of consumption herself. Yet she always remained positive and always found the humorous thing to write to her son. While Ann was so sick that December, Abigail wrote, "There has been a very foolish unfounded story in circulation respecting E. Warner and Ann. Reports even fixed the day of marriage and had the cake made at Connells the bakers. I believe it originated with some of the Bethel folks and some of them were much pleased thinking they would (have) Ann in their church; we learn the report and altho a little vexed at the absurdity of the thing we only laugh within our own family circle and concluded it would blow by as a nine days wonder, but Clarrissa Helsley told Ann that an active member of the Bethel told her that there was no doubt but Ann Moore had first told it herself - this vexed Ann so that she went to some of the members to clear herself and expose the tattling disposition of some amongst them (of which she had been convinced some time). Samuel Porter's new wife frankly told her that altho they would be glad to have her a member of their society they were glad to find there was no ground for the report, for however much they valued Warner considering him a very estimable young man they did not think he was just what Ann would choose. I hope however the fuss is now at an end - Ann has recently been under the necessity of saying “no”, from quite a different quarter and a very unexpected one she is quite vexed and says she does not think there are many girls who have been obliged to say “no” six times before they were (wed.) (7)
Ann was 20 years old and already turning down proposals of marriage. But that did not stop her younger brother, Murray aged 16, from teasing her. Earlier in September of that year Abigail had written, "Murray sometimes amuses himself with “feeling” very sorry for her (Ann) that she has no prospects of finding any one to take care of her in her “old age”. He also thinks it is a great imposition upon father to be obliged to support her so long. Thinks she has better qualify herself for a teacher without delay etc., but generally winds up with “Oh dear, if Ann could but get married, what a relief it would be to me!” (4)
Even with the limited funds, illness, law suits and many concerns, theirs appears to have been a very happy household. Then Abigail became quite ill after the birth of Alice Marie in June of 1839. Ann came home from New York City where she had been staying with her Aunt Mary and Uncle Robert Hicks. Ann writes to Edward that "Mother still keeps her promise of 'Letting me be housekeeper.' How well I perform my part others must say. I know I try. If Mother's health is regained I expect to keep school again for I cannot be dependent with father's present circumstances, while I am needed I do not feel dependent." That was written in August right after Alice Marie had died. After Ann had written her part of the letter, Abigail decided to add her thoughts. But after only a few lines, Ann took up the pen again and wrote, "I have nothing very particular to say but wished to get mother from the pen as it is too fatiguing for her to write." (9)
We know from other sources (10) that Abigail was coughing up blood by August of 1841 however she never wrote about her health in any of the letters to her children. And, she usually found something amusing to tell her children. In May of 1842 she wrote to her daughter, Mary, at Westown, "I told brother E today that I intended to tell thee of his attempt to scald sister A-. He said ”so do, and tell her when she comes home she will get served just so”-- well now for the scalding - a few evenings since just after tea brother E sat down by the stove and sister A came and sat in his lap, he began to tickle her to make her get up but she put her arms around his neck and said she would not = so he took her up and said he would put her in that kettle of water, (the kettle was full of water, and I thought had just been filled up, of course did not think of its being hot) she made no resistance and he just set her in the water, just enough to wet her dress, which I told him pleasantly was very wrong for the poor child had no other dress to wear if he spoilt that one - well said he, - if her clothes are not to be wet I can try some other way - so he stood her down on her feet and taken her up put the top and back part of her head in the water, in an instant she and A Maxwell screamed out, - and brother E turned ashy pale, for she thought that the water was hot, and he had scalded the hair from her head flashed into his mind, and as quick as lightening almost he caught hold of her hair and held it off from her head. It did not however prove serious, only smarted a little while not enough to blister. Ann Maxwell said her heart beat quicker for ½ an hour after, for which she thought the doctor must be crazy,- She knew the water was hot." (18)
In that same letter Abigail also speculates about the romance in Ann's life. "Read and keep this to thyself – Emor Haines finds it very necessary for his mental health to take a trip to Rochester now & then; to sympathize with some of his fellow teachers particularly thou of No. 1 is very reviving to his spirits, and I think it will prove a suitable revival - do not advert to it in thy letters for the subject is yet only in its infancy, and known only to father and myself except by surmises - no doubt Sister will tell thee herself as soon as her mind is made up one way or the other - he is a very diffident young man but improves much upon acquaintance. I believe he has given up all thoughts of going to Iowa. - I think sister A will not willingly go with him there, if she does any where else. - There is a woman who some times works for me by the name of Sarah — She thinks sister A is very handsome, she worked for Aunt Sarah last week and inquired of Ellen if Alice was the only daughter, on hearing that there was another she asked if she was as handsome as Ann Moore - Oh yes, “says Ellen, a great deal handsomer.” Sarah thought that could not be, for she saw Miss Moore riding out with a fine young man this Monday. And she was sure she never saw so handsome a couple. Emor Haines and Ann Moore a beautiful couple! Don’t thou think Sarah ---- must be an excellent judge of beauty?" Ann was being courted by Emmor Haines. (18)
Ann married Emmor Haines in 1843 when she was 25 and they "commenced a farm life, at Shelby, in Orleans Co., NY, where his father had long lived. In 1849 they removed to Trout Run, Pennsylvania, where Emmor purchased three or four thousand acres of woodland, and operated a saw mill, and went largely into the lumber business, which he carried on with varying success for ten years." (11) Her sister-in-law, Gilbert's wife, died in 1843 and Gilbert remarried in 1845, and it appears Gilbert's children were living with her in 1847. Ann wrote to her brother, Edward, "The children's school is closed for the summer, I do not think Walter has improved much if any, Ned has, I should like to attend to their lessons at home, but I have not time, I do not believe that G intends to take them though. We hear occasionally that he is coming." (12) At the time she was writing that letter she had only one living child, Alfred who was a little over one year old and "on his "way to become the 8th wonder." Walter and Ned were 10 and 6. Emmor was "running the mill night & day," and they had at least 3 hired men helping them. Ann asked Edward to send some "adhesive plasters" with their father when he comes again. One of the men had cut his foot and Ann had "sewed the cut in 2 places and then bound it up as handsomely as thee could."
She and Emmor were doing well. A year later she wrote to Edward saying, "The mill does well, Emmor says he will be out of debt by spring. She does not mention Gilbert's children so he must have come by to pick them up. And she had not heard from Gilbert in a long time. "Not a word from Gilbert. Father heard from a friend living at Norwich who was at Q mtg yesterday that he was at housekeeping in Norwich "further deponent sayeth not."(13) Gilbert's 2nd wife, Phebe, must have written to Ann in 1850. Lindley makes reference to it in one of his letters. "She (Ann) says she lately rec'd a letter from Phebe, Gilbert's wife, with a short note from Walter. It does not give much information, such as we particularly desire. Walter says he could not write much as his father was waiting for it. The letter was postmarked at Buffalo. So I suppose G is on one of his long gambling tours, up the lakes & down the lakes, & nobody knows where." (14)
They moved again "in 1856 to Williamsport, but still in the same business. (11) Lindley wrote, "Emmor's home is a very comfortable one & nicely furnished. Williamsport is pleasantly situated. It is encompassed by an amphitheater of hills, & pretty high ones too, on all sides except the N. E. at sufficient distance to leave room for this town, should it prove to be a large city. This gives the place a very picturesque-appearance. This place is as celebrated for lumber as Rochester is for flour. - - - Emmor has purchased an acre of ground about 30 or 40 rods from this house. He will probably build there another year. He is on a fine rising ground which is so situated that the view in no direction can be obstructed." (15)
Two of their children were born in Williamsport and they had a comfortable life there. But by 1865, in Buffalo, three of their children had died leaving Alfred as the only surviving child. While still in Williamsport in 1857 (six years before her daughter Mary died in 1863), Ann wrote to her brother Edward, "I have been intending for several days to write to thee and ask thy advice in my trouble. It is now nearly two weeks since I first noticed an uncommon nervousness and twitching in Mary’s right arm, I observed her closely and feared she had the St Vitus’ Dance. Emmor was away from home and when he came home I told him my fears, he was unwilling to believe and thought she did it on purpose out after spending the day at home and observing her he agreed with me and the next day we consulted a physician who confirmed our fears, he told me to apply mustard to her spine - give her blue pill 3 times a week followed by magnesia and a preparation of iron 3 times a day. I should have taken her from school immediately, but it was the last week and she was so much interested in her examination and exhibition that I feared the disappointment would be more injury to her than the continuance - but now that excitement is over, she seems very languid and complains of being tired all over - the twitching is not now confined to her arm but her whole right side is affected and it makes quite a difference in her reading, the difficulty of pronouncing some words. On looking back I think it must have been coming on her while father was here. He found fault with her writing, and I told her to try more and remarked that she did not write as well as she had done - she complained of its tiring her so to write which was something new for she had always liked to write. Since we first noticed it there has been quite a marked change, she uses her left hand altogether for any thing that can be done with one hand - cannot cut her victuals and eats with her left hand. I feel a good deal anxious about her and if thee can give me any consolation about the probabilities of a permanent restoration I wished thee would." (16)
"In 1860 he (Emmor) sold out his interest in Pennsylvania, and in the Spring of 1861 they went to Buffalo, taking with them four young children. Here Emmor Haines went into a wholesale lumber business, which soon prospered and gave him a competence." In 1890 Thomas Cornell wrote, "Since 1875 they have lived at leisure and have traveled much on both sides of the Atlantic." (11)
Emmor and Ann both became very involved in civic affairs in Buffalo. "By 1865, Buffalo was a city of 94,500 people, and missionary work was needed among the poor along Canal Street and the terrace. A Sunday School was organized for the children of those neighborhood, but they could not attend, because they did not have appropriate clothing; so women of Buffalo churches formed the Union Missionary Sunday School Aid Society to sew and provide for these children. This was under the capable leadership of Mrs. Emmor Haines, a Quakeress. The sewing meetings were held in a room in the YMCA headquarters, but soon the Society was asked for further help. Young girls, strangers in the city, needed lodging and employment, and the Aid Society brought a house, furnished it with donations, and provided meals and lodging for these young women. ---- On November 1, 1870, the Society was reorganized and became the "Women's Christian Association," the 11th in the United States. Mrs. Haines became the first president, a position which she held for twenty years." (17)
In 1882 Emmor was the Greenback candidate for U.S. Representative from New York 32nd District. He was also involved in the affairs of the Congregational Church; helped author, "An Appeal to Ministers of the Gospel of all Denominations in Behalf of Peace," in 1876; and was President of the Buffalo Historical Society in 1887.
(1) Letter from Edward to parents, Philadelphia 3rd Mo., 6th, 1837. Letter on file with the Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(2) Letter from Edward to parents, Philadelphia 7th Mo., 31, 1837. Letter on file with the Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(3) Letter from Abigail to Edward Mott Moore, Rochester 6th 22nd, 1834. Letter on file with the Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(4) Letter from Ann and Abigail to Edward Mott Moore, Rochester 7th Mo, 4 1838. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(5) Letter from Abigail to Edward Mott Moore, Rochester 9th Mo, 5, 1838. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(6) Letter from Abigail to Edward Mott Moore, Rochester, 10th Mo, 21, 1838. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(7) Letter from Abigail to Edward Mott Moore, Rochester, 12th Mo, 12, 1838. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(8) Letter from Abigail to Edward Mott Moore, Rochester, 2nd Mo., 18, 1839. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(9) Letter from Ann, Abigail and Lindley to Edward Mott Moore, Home, 8th Mo., 25th, 1839. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(10) Selected Letter of Lucretia Coffin Mott, To Martha Coffin Wright and David Wright, Philadelphia 8 mo., 28th, 1841
(11) Adam and Ann Mott by Thomas Cornell, 1890, pg. 384-385, 1890
(12) Ann and Lindley to Edward Mott Moore. Aug 15, 1847 First day eve. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(13) Letter from Ann to Edward Mott Moore Somerset 7 mo., 8, 1848. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(14) Letter from Lindley to Edward Mott Moore, West Haverford 6th mo., 30, 1850. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(15) Letter from Lindley Murray Moore to Edward Mott Moore, Williamsport, 9th mo., 13, 1855. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(16) Letter from Ann to her brother, Edward Mott Moore, Williamsport, 7th mo., 15, 1857. Letter on file in Edward Mott Moore Papers at the University of Rochester.
(17) Buffalo In The Gilded Age: 1870-1900 by Olga Lindberg, pg 10-11
(18) Letter from Abigail Mott Moore to her daughter Mary Hicks Moore, 5 mo.,
11 1842. Letter on file with Moore-Haines Family Papers at Swarthmore
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