Coach Your Critic Out
by Deborah Brown
The infamous inner critic, you know, that little voice inside
your head that says you can't, until you're pretty darn sure
it's right. Well, it's not. It's dead wrong.
I'm going to give you the surefire cure to oust your
critic and realize your amazing potential.
Tactic One: Know Your Enemy. In order to fight the good fight, you have to recognize the enemy. In other words, you must spend some time getting to know your own thinking process. Take a day to listen
from the inside out instead of the outside in. What are you saying to yourself? When a great idea pops into your head what do you do with it? Many people diminish it until the good idea is but a mere memory. So listen close and hear what your personal inner critic sounds like.
Tactic Two: Talk Back. Don't stand negative self-talk. Isn't it interesting that we won't accept someone else putting us down, but we are quite content to let our inner critic do us in? Quit being
your own worst enemy. When you hear "I can't", talk back
immediately! You can talk your inner critic back into silence.
It's not fond of fighting.
Tactic Three: Write It Down To Size: Yes indeed, the pen is a powerful tool. Once you have learned to recognize the inner critic, and you've started talking back, keep it in its place by writing it out. This takes a little more time and a little more discipline, but in the
long run you will come out ahead. Write down all the icky, finicky, frustrating stuff in your head. Write freely with no editing, no reading, and no rereading. Just get it out. Vent and complain about everything on your mind. Then you'll be rid of the emotional clutter that can keep you from succeeding. But you are not finished! Write out your affirmations. All those great things that you want to do,
be, and achieve. Write them like they have already happened. Believe it or not, it will start to sink into your subconscious until you find yourself making these things happen.
Tactic Four: Be Nicer to Yourself: This is permission to be a little insane. In fact, this exercise might make you feel a little funny at first, but if you keep at it, in time you won't even be able to find
your inner critic. Nothing makes it shrink like a face to face showdown. So gather your courage, and look in the mirror. Instead of criticizing yourself, as we so often do, give yourself some encouragement. Biblically we are told to treat our neighbors like ourselves. If we did that, our neighbors would move! Unless we start treating ourselves better. And it's high time we did. Write down ten great things
about yourself and read them everyday. Before long, you'll
begin to see that you are right. You have amazing potential
and superb ideas. You are on the verge of making your dreams
a reality.
These four tactics are all you need to cure your inner critic.
The more you use them, the better they will work. So, create
a routine that puts you at the head of your team!
About the Author: Deborah Brown is a noted personal coach and motivational speaker who helps people remove the obstacles in their life
so they can reach their goals and surpass their dreams. In 90 days, Deborah has helped clients go from jobs they hated, to careers they loved; from thinking they would never meet someone to date, to finding a relationship; from having the people in their lives not listen and understand them, to getting their needs met by family, friends, and co-workers just by asking. Having a life you love starts when you believe
you can. Deborah Brown Helps You Believe That You Can.
To Learn More Visit: Surpass Your Dreams.com, send
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Today!
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