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Ancestors of Cedric and Brendan
James Tuffin [Parents] was born on 9 May 1700 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He died in Nov 1753 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He was buried on 21 Nov 1753 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He married Ruth Hiscock on 21 Jun 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. James was baptized on 6 Jun 1700 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England.
Ruth Hiscock was born in Apr 1704 in Fontmell Magna, Dorset, England. She died in Aug 1782 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She was buried on 10 Aug 1872 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She married James Tuffin on 21 Jun 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She was baptized on 12 Apr 1704 in Fontmell Magna, Dorset, England.
They had the following children:
F i Ruth Tuffin was born in 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England [twins]. She died in 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She was buried on 28 Sep 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Ruth was baptized on 14 Sep 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F ii Sarah Tuffin was born in 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England [twins]. She died in 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She was buried on 28 Sep 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Sarah was baptized on 14 Sep 1724 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F iii Ruth Tuffin was born in 1725 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Ruth was baptized on 28 Feb 1725/1726 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M iv James Tuffin was born in 1728 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. James was baptized on 17 Oct 1728 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M v George Tuffin M vi Samuel Tuffin was born in Mar 1732/1733 in Dorset, England. He died in Jul 1808 in Dorset, England. Samuel was baptized on 1 Mar 1732/1733 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F vii Betty Tuffin was born in 1736. Betty was baptized on 9 Mar 1735/1736 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F viii Lucy Tuffin was born in 1736 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Lucy was baptized on 6 Jun 1736 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M ix Thomas Tuffin was born in 1742 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Thomas was baptized on 16 Mar 1741/1742 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England.
Thomas Tuffin was born in 1652 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He died in Apr 1701 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He married Margaret Vincent in 1677 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England.
The Clubmen of Dorset
Author: Brian TompkinsEvery one knows that the English Civil war was fought between King and Parliament, but the largest battle in Dorset, (some of the sieges involved more men), was not fought between Cavaliers and Roundheads. It occurred in 1645 when a force from Oliver Cromwell's New Model Army, numerically outnumbered by some 4 to 1, did battle with the Dorset Clubmen a little known third force which owed no allegiance to either side.
The Clubmen were countryfolk who resented the 'un-natural' Civil War and had grown weary of the battles between Cavaliers and Roundheads, and the depredations of the soldiers of both sides which damaged their lands and ruined the crops. Few of them knew the merits of the quarrel between King and Parliament but, armed with clubs, (from which came their name), pitchforks and scythe blades, this motley collection of yeomen and farmers took issue with both sides. Often generalled by clergy, they took a battering wherever they defended their land. Their only uniform was a white cockcade and their banners were inscribed with the motto
'If you offer to plunder or take our cattle,
be assured we will bid you battle'.Although they came from all the surrounding counties the Clubmen were particularly strong in Dorset and after having been harried by Oliver Cromwell some 2-4000 of them became entrenched on Hambledon Hill in August 1645. It was here that they made their last stand led by the Rev. Bravel of Compton Abbas. Against them was Cromwells army of about 1000 men, fresh from the siege of Sherborne Castle and which had earlier surrounded the town of Shaftesbury and capture about 50 of the clubmens leaders who were holding a meeting there. Cromwell attacked from the rear and the clubmen were routed. Most fled, and some it is said, escaped by sliding down the hill on their bottoms, amongst them 4 clergy.
At the end of the battle when Cromwell sent 50 dragoons to drag the remaining Clubmen from the hill, it was probably as comic a battle as the reenactment by villagers carried out when Princess Marie Louise visited Shroton in 1951. Cromwell's dragoons easily overcame them and chased some 400 of them down the slopes to be locked up overnight in the village church of St. Mary's. Next day Oliver Cromwell decided that they were 'poor silly creatures' and after lecturing them allowed their release.
Other than this final stand, very little detail is known about the Clubmen or their leaders. It is known that prior to the battle on Hambledon Hill they had gathered at Badbury Rings. and that one of their leaders was Richard Newman , a member of the Newman family of Fifehead Magdalen.
Margaret Vincent was born on 20 Oct 1657 in Fontmell Magna, Dorset, England. She died on 4 May 1701 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She was buried on 4 May 1701 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She married Thomas Tuffin in 1677 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England.
Sister of Richard Vincent, Tanner
They had the following children:
M i Thomas Tuffin was born in 1678 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, Englan. He died in Dec 1720 in Blandford Forum, Dorset, England. He was buried on 29 Dec 1720 in Blandford Forum, Dorset, England. Thomas was baptized on 23 Feb 1678/1679 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F ii Elizabeth Tuffin was born in 1680 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Elizabeth was baptized on 15 Jul 1680 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F iii Margaret Tuffin was born in 1682 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She died in 1722 in Owermoigne, Dorset, England. She was buried on 14 Mar 1722/1723 in Owermoigne, Dorset, England. Margaret was baptized on 10 Jan 1681/1682 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M iv John Tuffin was born in 1683 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He died in 1744. John was baptized on 3 Dec 1683 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F v Mary Tuffin was born in 1685 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Mary was baptized on 15 Feb 1685/1686 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M vi Richard Tuffin was born in 1687 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Richard was baptized on 24 Feb 1687/1688 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. F vii Sarah Tuffin was born in 1690 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She died in 1764 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. She was buried on 30 Sep 1764 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. Sarah was baptized on 14 May 1690 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M viii Vincent Tuffin was born in 1691 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He died in 1751 in Wimborne Minster, Dorset, England. He was buried on 13 Jan 1750/1751 in Wimborne Minster, Dorset, England. Vincent was baptized on 2 Feb 1691/1692 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M ix George Tuffin was born in 1693 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. George was baptized on 17 May 1693 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M x Robert Tuffin was born in 1696 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. He died in 1771. He was buried on 2 Feb 1771. Robert was baptized on 23 Mar 1696/1697 in Sutton Waldron, Dorset, England. M xi James Tuffin
Gordon Home Blackader Capt. [Parents] was born on 12 Aug 1885 in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. He died on 10 Aug 1916 in London, England. He was buried in F/780A, Mount Royal Cemetery, Montreal, Quebec, Canada. He married Kathleen Newberry. He served in the military Canadian Blackwatch 42nd Battalion in 1915/1916.
As an architech he formed a partnership with Ernest Isbell Barott thus the Architechtural firm of Barott and Blackader. They designed several of the more prominent homes in Montreal along with the William Caldwell Cottingham House located at 1345, Redpath Crescent in Montreal. The firm continued to bear his name after his death in 1916. In 1924 the expansion of the prestigous Lake Louise Canadian Pacific Hotel, located in Alberta, Canada and then in 1929 the Aldred building located at the intersection of Place D'armes and Notre Dame Street in Montreal were both designed by the firm bearing his name.
Gordon fought with the 42nd Battalion Black Watch during World War I, was wounded at Ypres (Zillebke) on 2-June-1916 and died shortly thereafter on 10-Aug-1916 at the military hospital in London (now the Lanesborough Hotel at Hyde Park Corner). Here he met a fellow patient his cousin Andrew Hamilton Gault, who had also been wounded at Ypres. Before Gordon died in August 1916, he asked Hamilton known to all as Hammie to take care of his wife Kathleen, and infant daughter Patricia then under three years old.
Blackader-Lauterman Library of Architecture and Art of McGill University primarily serves faculty and students in the Department of Art History, the School of Architecture and the School of Urban Planning. The Library originated in the early 1920's with an endowment from the family of Gordon Home Blackader, B.Arch. 1906, whose death in World War I terminated a promising career of one of the early graduates of the McGill School of Architecture. In 1947, another endowment was offered to the Library by the family of Dinah Lauterman, a Montreal sculptress.
Kathleen Newberry died in 1920. She married Gordon Home Blackader Capt..
In 1920, four years after the death of Gordon, his widow Kathleen was supposed to marry A. Hamilton Gault but she was killed before the wedding took place. This happened on Kathleen's daughter's [Margaret Patricia] 7th birthday. They were being driven by Hammie in his open top car to a Meet of the Taunton Foxhounds the car skidded on wet leaves and overturned, Hammie and Patricia crawled out unhurt but her Kathleen was killed.
They had the following children:
F i Margaret Patricia Blackader
Elsie Blackader [Parents] was born in 1890. She married J. Colin Kemp.
They had the following children:
F i Vera Elizabeth Kemp F ii Barbara Kemp F iii Pamela Marion Kemp M iv John Kemp
William George Hood Walrond 2nd Baron Waleran
Margaret Patricia Blackader [Parents] was born on 8 Nov 1913 in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. She died on 14 May 2002 in Nassau. She married William George Hood Walrond 2nd Baron Waleran on 6 Jun 1932. The marriage ended in divorce.They were divorced in 1934.
Other marriages:Hoyes, Rex
McCarthy, C.D. Brig.
In Memoriam offered by Richard Vernon 28 th September, 2002
Good afternoon everyone it really is amazing that so many of you have come from so far and wide to take part in this Memorial Service for our friend Patricia McCarthy. The presence of you all here today is in itself perhaps the most fitting tribute she can have. Pat had a long and varied life all of us will know some of it, probably none of us will know all of it, but I have tried to put together some of the highlights.
She was the only daughter of Gordon and Kathleen Blackader. Gordon came from a prominent Montreal family and served in the Canadian Black Watch during the First World War. In 1916, he was severely wounded at Ypres and was sent to a military hospital in London (now the Lanesborough Hotel at Hyde Park Corner). Here he met a fellow patient his cousin Andrew Hamilton Gault, who had also been wounded at Ypres. Before Gordon died in August 1916, he asked Hamilton known to all as Hammie to take care of his wife Kathleen, and infant daughter Patricia then under three years old.
Some four years later, in 1920, Kathleen became engaged to Hammie Gault, but tragically she was killed in a motor accident before they were married. This happened on Pat's 7th birthday. They were being driven by Hammie in his open top car to a Meet of the Taunton Foxhounds the car skidded on wet leaves and overturned, Hammie and Pat crawled out unhurt but her mother was killed.
This left the young Pat an orphan, having lost her father when she was under three and her mother when she was seven and of course she was an only child. However much love and support she may have had subsequently, these tragic facts must have had a significant bearing on the rest of her life. Hammie took Pat on as his ward. He and Dorothy, who he married in 1922, were amazingly generous to Pat, as of course was Hammie's sister and brother in law, Lillian and Percy Benson, who subsequently adopted her. She grew up to be a very beautiful, talented and wealthy young lady. She always thought of herself as 'half and half', being brought up partially in Montreal by her Blackader grandparents and partially in Somerset by the Bensons.
Some of this time was also spent at school in Switzerland Hammie and Dorothy were ardent flyers and Pat had her first flight in their Gypsy Moth in Lausanne this triggered a lifelong interest in flying. On her 17th birthday, Hammie took her to dinner at the Ritz in Paris after dinner he asked her if she wanted to go dancing or to see Paris from the air. Of course she opted for the flying and off they went to Le Bourget and flew all over the city in the dead of night. When they returned to the airfield, armed police were there to meet them for having broken just about every rule in the flying book. Only Hammie's reputation and charm and Pat's beauty reportedly kept them out of prison that night.
In June 1932, aged only 19, Pat married Lord William Waleran, a Devonshire peer. The marriage lasted less than two years. Pat left him and they were divorced in 1934. Although it hadn't lasted long, she said she always remained good friends with Bill Waleran.
The following year she married Rex Hoyes, a New Zealand businessman. She bought Marwell Hall, near Winchester for them to live in and they led a very grand life with butlers, maids and a full staff. During the War, they used to have the War Cabinet down at the weekends. Some of you may know Marwell, which is now the Marwell Zoological Park, close to the M3.
The marriage to Rex Hoyes was very unhappy, but her wartime years at Marwell were productive, for during the War, an airfield was constructed in the grounds of the house. The field was an important site for the conversion of Spitfires to Seafires and the modification of American bombers and fighters for RAF use. Pat, duly qualified, was its Air Controller until the Air Ministry promoted her to manage the whole airfield, which she did for three years.
In 1944, Pat was asked by her great friend Air Chief Marshall Lord Tedder then Eisenhower's deputy to come to Normandy to open Malcolm Clubs, patterned on those opened earlier in North Africa by Lady Tedder. These were clubs for British airmen stationed abroad. She started clubs in France, Belgium, Holland, and Germany. The stories of Pat and the Malcolm Clubs are the stuff of legends. By virtue of her work with the RAF, she was always at the front line I believe they were amongst the very early British arrivals in Berlin. It was not for nothing that Pat and her assistants were known 19 as the most forward women in the European campaign". I doubt that this was purely in a geographical sense. I do know that she spend VE Day dancing the night away in the Gran Platz in Brussels. And the ironies of war were not lost on Pat. On inspecting the giant Philips Electronics plant at Eindhoven as a possible venue for a Malcolm Club, she was shown round by the manager. Earlier in the War, she had sent bombers from Marwell to destroy the plant as it was being used by the Germans for armaments manufacture. Many airmen were lost on the raid. The manager remembered the raid and told her that one of the bombers had crashed onto the plant itself. Pat was desperate to find out if any of the airmen had survived the manager did not know but proudly told her that the wing lights of the bomber had been manufactured by his plant before the war.
Shortly after VE Day, Pat was off to the Middle East to open Malcolm Clubs there she was based in Cairo and supervised the Clubs throughout the vast Middle East Command. By 1948 her work was done and she returned to the UK. Her significant contribution to the war effort was recognised by the award of an MBE.
When she got back to England, she found that Rex had sold Marwell (which was in fact hers and not his to sell). There was a very acrimonious divorce and a Court Case at the Old Bailey, after which Rex ended up in prison. She reverted to her maiden name.
While she was living and working in London she met Brig Tom McCarthy, a neighbour in her apartment building, who to her surprise turned out to be a friend of Dorothy Gault. He had been divorced for 2 or 3 years and had a teen aged son and daughter. Pat and Tom married in 1949. They moved to New York where he worked for the Foreign Office as Senior Trade Advisor to the British Government.
Tom and Pat's daughter Alexandra was born during this period. After New York, they all moved to Calgary, Alberta where he was an extremely successful investor in the early development of the Canadian oil industry. They eventually retired to the Bahamas, but also spent time in Switzerland and Portugal. Some of you will have stayed with them at Villars I learnt to ski on a holiday with them and in Portugal, first at Val de Lobo and then in the lovely farmhouse Esperanza. that Pat created. Tom died in 1977 theirs had been an extraordinary marriage. They adored each other but they were both such strong characters that they could only live with each other for a few weeks at a time before needing a break.
After Tom died, Pat lived on in McCarthy Cottage, Lyford Cay, enjoying an active life. She had many friends on the island and in particular for some of the residents who had properties there, she was always on hand to fix things in their absence. She was known by the Bahamians as "The McCarthy" They were all very fond of her but she could be quite a bulldozer, albeit always in a fair manner. She looked after them and fought their baffles for them. For those who worked directly for her, she inspired much loyalty as shown by the devoted care given to her by those who looked after her in her last few years.
She was a brilliant landscape gardener and designed lots of gardens for the rich and famous in Nassau and for many years she ran the Gardening Committee of the Lyford Cay Club. I suppose if there is a lasting legacy of Pat, it will be the beautiful gardens and landscapes that are there today by virtue of her efforts. I certainly remember the almost passionate relationship she had with some of the palm trees she had planted. If they had the nerve to start dying, or be knocked over by a hurricane, she would take it as a personal affront. I can picture her today replanting them by sheer force of will I suppose there was a JCB involved but if there was, I don't remember it.
This strength of character manifested itself throughout all her life surviving the death of her parents, her first two marriages, making a success of the Malcolm Clubs, and her wonderful relationship with Tom.
As a mother, which she became aged 44 relatively late for those days she was devoted. But perhaps that bulldozing quality in her character sometimes came too much to the fore. In a very nice letter sent to me by her daughter Allie after her mother's death, she spoke candidly of the trouble they sometimes had getting on together but she also emphasised their closeness.
As you all know, Pat was also forthright in her views on all matters, particularly the state of the world. One personal recollection of this was that she kindly lent me and Sheena McCarthy Cottage for part of our honeymoon. Although she moved out to friends for the week well sort of we hadn't bargained on being kept up to the early hours of the morning hearing her views on the state of world in general and Bahamian politics in particular. All delivered through a malodorous cloud from the cheroots she used to smoke no doubt the cause of her unique deep and gravely voice. And her strength was ultimately shown by surviving to the ripe old age of 88, despite smoking 20 of those cheroots a day and living on a succession of very strange diets.
During the last few years, her money was running out and she was finding it more and more difficult to make ends meet. In the end she died leaving very few possessions, having been wonderfully supported both financially and in love by all her friends. The fact that so many were prepared to support her during this period is perhaps another legacy of hers. There are too many to record all of them, but special mention should be made of Charlie and Sandra McIntosh who most generously allowed her to stay on in McCarthy Cottage rent free and Freddie and Lou Wanklin who have been unremitting in their support over the years. And of course very special mention must be made of Trish and Donald. Without Trish's efforts, the quality of Pat's last few years would be impossible to imagine and without whom we would not be here today. Some of you may be surprised to know that Trish is not directly related to Pat, but was married to Tom's son Stuart, who sadly died. Pat was known as 'GrandPat' to all the McCarthy children and grandchildren some of whom are here today and then to an extended family of friends on both sides of the Atlantic.
Pat was a unique person who brought colour and light to the many she touched during her long life. It has been a pleasure for me, as one of those many, to give this short address in her memory.
Thank you Pat.
Margaret Patricia Blackader [Parents] was born on 8 Nov 1913 in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. She died on 14 May 2002 in Nassau. She married Rex Hoyes in 1934. The marriage ended in divorce.They were divorced in 1948.
Other marriages:Walrond, William George Hood 2nd Baron Waleran
McCarthy, C.D. Brig.
In Memoriam offered by Richard Vernon 28 th September, 2002
Good afternoon everyone it really is amazing that so many of you have come from so far and wide to take part in this Memorial Service for our friend Patricia McCarthy. The presence of you all here today is in itself perhaps the most fitting tribute she can have. Pat had a long and varied life all of us will know some of it, probably none of us will know all of it, but I have tried to put together some of the highlights.
She was the only daughter of Gordon and Kathleen Blackader. Gordon came from a prominent Montreal family and served in the Canadian Black Watch during the First World War. In 1916, he was severely wounded at Ypres and was sent to a military hospital in London (now the Lanesborough Hotel at Hyde Park Corner). Here he met a fellow patient his cousin Andrew Hamilton Gault, who had also been wounded at Ypres. Before Gordon died in August 1916, he asked Hamilton known to all as Hammie to take care of his wife Kathleen, and infant daughter Patricia then under three years old.
Some four years later, in 1920, Kathleen became engaged to Hammie Gault, but tragically she was killed in a motor accident before they were married. This happened on Pat's 7th birthday. They were being driven by Hammie in his open top car to a Meet of the Taunton Foxhounds the car skidded on wet leaves and overturned, Hammie and Pat crawled out unhurt but her mother was killed.
This left the young Pat an orphan, having lost her father when she was under three and her mother when she was seven and of course she was an only child. However much love and support she may have had subsequently, these tragic facts must have had a significant bearing on the rest of her life. Hammie took Pat on as his ward. He and Dorothy, who he married in 1922, were amazingly generous to Pat, as of course was Hammie's sister and brother in law, Lillian and Percy Benson, who subsequently adopted her. She grew up to be a very beautiful, talented and wealthy young lady. She always thought of herself as 'half and half', being brought up partially in Montreal by her Blackader grandparents and partially in Somerset by the Bensons.
Some of this time was also spent at school in Switzerland Hammie and Dorothy were ardent flyers and Pat had her first flight in their Gypsy Moth in Lausanne this triggered a lifelong interest in flying. On her 17th birthday, Hammie took her to dinner at the Ritz in Paris after dinner he asked her if she wanted to go dancing or to see Paris from the air. Of course she opted for the flying and off they went to Le Bourget and flew all over the city in the dead of night. When they returned to the airfield, armed police were there to meet them for having broken just about every rule in the flying book. Only Hammie's reputation and charm and Pat's beauty reportedly kept them out of prison that night.
In June 1932, aged only 19, Pat married Lord William Waleran, a Devonshire peer. The marriage lasted less than two years. Pat left him and they were divorced in 1934. Although it hadn't lasted long, she said she always remained good friends with Bill Waleran.
The following year she married Rex Hoyes, a New Zealand businessman. She bought Marwell Hall, near Winchester for them to live in and they led a very grand life with butlers, maids and a full staff. During the War, they used to have the War Cabinet down at the weekends. Some of you may know Marwell, which is now the Marwell Zoological Park, close to the M3.
The marriage to Rex Hoyes was very unhappy, but her wartime years at Marwell were productive, for during the War, an airfield was constructed in the grounds of the house. The field was an important site for the conversion of Spitfires to Seafires and the modification of American bombers and fighters for RAF use. Pat, duly qualified, was its Air Controller until the Air Ministry promoted her to manage the whole airfield, which she did for three years.
In 1944, Pat was asked by her great friend Air Chief Marshall Lord Tedder then Eisenhower's deputy to come to Normandy to open Malcolm Clubs, patterned on those opened earlier in North Africa by Lady Tedder. These were clubs for British airmen stationed abroad. She started clubs in France, Belgium, Holland, and Germany. The stories of Pat and the Malcolm Clubs are the stuff of legends. By virtue of her work with the RAF, she was always at the front line I believe they were amongst the very early British arrivals in Berlin. It was not for nothing that Pat and her assistants were known 19 as the most forward women in the European campaign". I doubt that this was purely in a geographical sense. I do know that she spend VE Day dancing the night away in the Gran Platz in Brussels. And the ironies of war were not lost on Pat. On inspecting the giant Philips Electronics plant at Eindhoven as a possible venue for a Malcolm Club, she was shown round by the manager. Earlier in the War, she had sent bombers from Marwell to destroy the plant as it was being used by the Germans for armaments manufacture. Many airmen were lost on the raid. The manager remembered the raid and told her that one of the bombers had crashed onto the plant itself. Pat was desperate to find out if any of the airmen had survived the manager did not know but proudly told her that the wing lights of the bomber had been manufactured by his plant before the war.
Shortly after VE Day, Pat was off to the Middle East to open Malcolm Clubs there she was based in Cairo and supervised the Clubs throughout the vast Middle East Command. By 1948 her work was done and she returned to the UK. Her significant contribution to the war effort was recognised by the award of an MBE.
When she got back to England, she found that Rex had sold Marwell (which was in fact hers and not his to sell). There was a very acrimonious divorce and a Court Case at the Old Bailey, after which Rex ended up in prison. She reverted to her maiden name.
While she was living and working in London she met Brig Tom McCarthy, a neighbour in her apartment building, who to her surprise turned out to be a friend of Dorothy Gault. He had been divorced for 2 or 3 years and had a teen aged son and daughter. Pat and Tom married in 1949. They moved to New York where he worked for the Foreign Office as Senior Trade Advisor to the British Government.
Tom and Pat's daughter Alexandra was born during this period. After New York, they all moved to Calgary, Alberta where he was an extremely successful investor in the early development of the Canadian oil industry. They eventually retired to the Bahamas, but also spent time in Switzerland and Portugal. Some of you will have stayed with them at Villars I learnt to ski on a holiday with them and in Portugal, first at Val de Lobo and then in the lovely farmhouse Esperanza. that Pat created. Tom died in 1977 theirs had been an extraordinary marriage. They adored each other but they were both such strong characters that they could only live with each other for a few weeks at a time before needing a break.
After Tom died, Pat lived on in McCarthy Cottage, Lyford Cay, enjoying an active life. She had many friends on the island and in particular for some of the residents who had properties there, she was always on hand to fix things in their absence. She was known by the Bahamians as "The McCarthy" They were all very fond of her but she could be quite a bulldozer, albeit always in a fair manner. She looked after them and fought their baffles for them. For those who worked directly for her, she inspired much loyalty as shown by the devoted care given to her by those who looked after her in her last few years.
She was a brilliant landscape gardener and designed lots of gardens for the rich and famous in Nassau and for many years she ran the Gardening Committee of the Lyford Cay Club. I suppose if there is a lasting legacy of Pat, it will be the beautiful gardens and landscapes that are there today by virtue of her efforts. I certainly remember the almost passionate relationship she had with some of the palm trees she had planted. If they had the nerve to start dying, or be knocked over by a hurricane, she would take it as a personal affront. I can picture her today replanting them by sheer force of will I suppose there was a JCB involved but if there was, I don't remember it.
This strength of character manifested itself throughout all her life surviving the death of her parents, her first two marriages, making a success of the Malcolm Clubs, and her wonderful relationship with Tom.
As a mother, which she became aged 44 relatively late for those days she was devoted. But perhaps that bulldozing quality in her character sometimes came too much to the fore. In a very nice letter sent to me by her daughter Allie after her mother's death, she spoke candidly of the trouble they sometimes had getting on together but she also emphasised their closeness.
As you all know, Pat was also forthright in her views on all matters, particularly the state of the world. One personal recollection of this was that she kindly lent me and Sheena McCarthy Cottage for part of our honeymoon. Although she moved out to friends for the week well sort of we hadn't bargained on being kept up to the early hours of the morning hearing her views on the state of world in general and Bahamian politics in particular. All delivered through a malodorous cloud from the cheroots she used to smoke no doubt the cause of her unique deep and gravely voice. And her strength was ultimately shown by surviving to the ripe old age of 88, despite smoking 20 of those cheroots a day and living on a succession of very strange diets.
During the last few years, her money was running out and she was finding it more and more difficult to make ends meet. In the end she died leaving very few possessions, having been wonderfully supported both financially and in love by all her friends. The fact that so many were prepared to support her during this period is perhaps another legacy of hers. There are too many to record all of them, but special mention should be made of Charlie and Sandra McIntosh who most generously allowed her to stay on in McCarthy Cottage rent free and Freddie and Lou Wanklin who have been unremitting in their support over the years. And of course very special mention must be made of Trish and Donald. Without Trish's efforts, the quality of Pat's last few years would be impossible to imagine and without whom we would not be here today. Some of you may be surprised to know that Trish is not directly related to Pat, but was married to Tom's son Stuart, who sadly died. Pat was known as 'GrandPat' to all the McCarthy children and grandchildren some of whom are here today and then to an extended family of friends on both sides of the Atlantic.
Pat was a unique person who brought colour and light to the many she touched during her long life. It has been a pleasure for me, as one of those many, to give this short address in her memory.
Thank you Pat.
C.D. McCarthy Brig. died in 1977. He married Margaret Patricia Blackader in 1949.
Before meeting Pat Blackader, he had been divorced for 2 or 3 years and had a teen aged son and daughter.
Margaret Patricia Blackader [Parents] was born on 8 Nov 1913 in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. She died on 14 May 2002 in Nassau. She married C.D. McCarthy Brig. in 1949.
Other marriages:Walrond, William George Hood 2nd Baron Waleran
Hoyes, Rex
In Memoriam offered by Richard Vernon 28 th September, 2002
Good afternoon everyone it really is amazing that so many of you have come from so far and wide to take part in this Memorial Service for our friend Patricia McCarthy. The presence of you all here today is in itself perhaps the most fitting tribute she can have. Pat had a long and varied life all of us will know some of it, probably none of us will know all of it, but I have tried to put together some of the highlights.
She was the only daughter of Gordon and Kathleen Blackader. Gordon came from a prominent Montreal family and served in the Canadian Black Watch during the First World War. In 1916, he was severely wounded at Ypres and was sent to a military hospital in London (now the Lanesborough Hotel at Hyde Park Corner). Here he met a fellow patient his cousin Andrew Hamilton Gault, who had also been wounded at Ypres. Before Gordon died in August 1916, he asked Hamilton known to all as Hammie to take care of his wife Kathleen, and infant daughter Patricia then under three years old.
Some four years later, in 1920, Kathleen became engaged to Hammie Gault, but tragically she was killed in a motor accident before they were married. This happened on Pat's 7th birthday. They were being driven by Hammie in his open top car to a Meet of the Taunton Foxhounds the car skidded on wet leaves and overturned, Hammie and Pat crawled out unhurt but her mother was killed.
This left the young Pat an orphan, having lost her father when she was under three and her mother when she was seven and of course she was an only child. However much love and support she may have had subsequently, these tragic facts must have had a significant bearing on the rest of her life. Hammie took Pat on as his ward. He and Dorothy, who he married in 1922, were amazingly generous to Pat, as of course was Hammie's sister and brother in law, Lillian and Percy Benson, who subsequently adopted her. She grew up to be a very beautiful, talented and wealthy young lady. She always thought of herself as 'half and half', being brought up partially in Montreal by her Blackader grandparents and partially in Somerset by the Bensons.
Some of this time was also spent at school in Switzerland Hammie and Dorothy were ardent flyers and Pat had her first flight in their Gypsy Moth in Lausanne this triggered a lifelong interest in flying. On her 17th birthday, Hammie took her to dinner at the Ritz in Paris after dinner he asked her if she wanted to go dancing or to see Paris from the air. Of course she opted for the flying and off they went to Le Bourget and flew all over the city in the dead of night. When they returned to the airfield, armed police were there to meet them for having broken just about every rule in the flying book. Only Hammie's reputation and charm and Pat's beauty reportedly kept them out of prison that night.
In June 1932, aged only 19, Pat married Lord William Waleran, a Devonshire peer. The marriage lasted less than two years. Pat left him and they were divorced in 1934. Although it hadn't lasted long, she said she always remained good friends with Bill Waleran.
The following year she married Rex Hoyes, a New Zealand businessman. She bought Marwell Hall, near Winchester for them to live in and they led a very grand life with butlers, maids and a full staff. During the War, they used to have the War Cabinet down at the weekends. Some of you may know Marwell, which is now the Marwell Zoological Park, close to the M3.
The marriage to Rex Hoyes was very unhappy, but her wartime years at Marwell were productive, for during the War, an airfield was constructed in the grounds of the house. The field was an important site for the conversion of Spitfires to Seafires and the modification of American bombers and fighters for RAF use. Pat, duly qualified, was its Air Controller until the Air Ministry promoted her to manage the whole airfield, which she did for three years.
In 1944, Pat was asked by her great friend Air Chief Marshall Lord Tedder then Eisenhower's deputy to come to Normandy to open Malcolm Clubs, patterned on those opened earlier in North Africa by Lady Tedder. These were clubs for British airmen stationed abroad. She started clubs in France, Belgium, Holland, and Germany. The stories of Pat and the Malcolm Clubs are the stuff of legends. By virtue of her work with the RAF, she was always at the front line I believe they were amongst the very early British arrivals in Berlin. It was not for nothing that Pat and her assistants were known 19 as the most forward women in the European campaign". I doubt that this was purely in a geographical sense. I do know that she spend VE Day dancing the night away in the Gran Platz in Brussels. And the ironies of war were not lost on Pat. On inspecting the giant Philips Electronics plant at Eindhoven as a possible venue for a Malcolm Club, she was shown round by the manager. Earlier in the War, she had sent bombers from Marwell to destroy the plant as it was being used by the Germans for armaments manufacture. Many airmen were lost on the raid. The manager remembered the raid and told her that one of the bombers had crashed onto the plant itself. Pat was desperate to find out if any of the airmen had survived the manager did not know but proudly told her that the wing lights of the bomber had been manufactured by his plant before the war.
Shortly after VE Day, Pat was off to the Middle East to open Malcolm Clubs there she was based in Cairo and supervised the Clubs throughout the vast Middle East Command. By 1948 her work was done and she returned to the UK. Her significant contribution to the war effort was recognised by the award of an MBE.
When she got back to England, she found that Rex had sold Marwell (which was in fact hers and not his to sell). There was a very acrimonious divorce and a Court Case at the Old Bailey, after which Rex ended up in prison. She reverted to her maiden name.
While she was living and working in London she met Brig Tom McCarthy, a neighbour in her apartment building, who to her surprise turned out to be a friend of Dorothy Gault. He had been divorced for 2 or 3 years and had a teen aged son and daughter. Pat and Tom married in 1949. They moved to New York where he worked for the Foreign Office as Senior Trade Advisor to the British Government.
Tom and Pat's daughter Alexandra was born during this period. After New York, they all moved to Calgary, Alberta where he was an extremely successful investor in the early development of the Canadian oil industry. They eventually retired to the Bahamas, but also spent time in Switzerland and Portugal. Some of you will have stayed with them at Villars I learnt to ski on a holiday with them and in Portugal, first at Val de Lobo and then in the lovely farmhouse Esperanza. that Pat created. Tom died in 1977 theirs had been an extraordinary marriage. They adored each other but they were both such strong characters that they could only live with each other for a few weeks at a time before needing a break.
After Tom died, Pat lived on in McCarthy Cottage, Lyford Cay, enjoying an active life. She had many friends on the island and in particular for some of the residents who had properties there, she was always on hand to fix things in their absence. She was known by the Bahamians as "The McCarthy" They were all very fond of her but she could be quite a bulldozer, albeit always in a fair manner. She looked after them and fought their baffles for them. For those who worked directly for her, she inspired much loyalty as shown by the devoted care given to her by those who looked after her in her last few years.
She was a brilliant landscape gardener and designed lots of gardens for the rich and famous in Nassau and for many years she ran the Gardening Committee of the Lyford Cay Club. I suppose if there is a lasting legacy of Pat, it will be the beautiful gardens and landscapes that are there today by virtue of her efforts. I certainly remember the almost passionate relationship she had with some of the palm trees she had planted. If they had the nerve to start dying, or be knocked over by a hurricane, she would take it as a personal affront. I can picture her today replanting them by sheer force of will I suppose there was a JCB involved but if there was, I don't remember it.
This strength of character manifested itself throughout all her life surviving the death of her parents, her first two marriages, making a success of the Malcolm Clubs, and her wonderful relationship with Tom.
As a mother, which she became aged 44 relatively late for those days she was devoted. But perhaps that bulldozing quality in her character sometimes came too much to the fore. In a very nice letter sent to me by her daughter Allie after her mother's death, she spoke candidly of the trouble they sometimes had getting on together but she also emphasised their closeness.
As you all know, Pat was also forthright in her views on all matters, particularly the state of the world. One personal recollection of this was that she kindly lent me and Sheena McCarthy Cottage for part of our honeymoon. Although she moved out to friends for the week well sort of we hadn't bargained on being kept up to the early hours of the morning hearing her views on the state of world in general and Bahamian politics in particular. All delivered through a malodorous cloud from the cheroots she used to smoke no doubt the cause of her unique deep and gravely voice. And her strength was ultimately shown by surviving to the ripe old age of 88, despite smoking 20 of those cheroots a day and living on a succession of very strange diets.
During the last few years, her money was running out and she was finding it more and more difficult to make ends meet. In the end she died leaving very few possessions, having been wonderfully supported both financially and in love by all her friends. The fact that so many were prepared to support her during this period is perhaps another legacy of hers. There are too many to record all of them, but special mention should be made of Charlie and Sandra McIntosh who most generously allowed her to stay on in McCarthy Cottage rent free and Freddie and Lou Wanklin who have been unremitting in their support over the years. And of course very special mention must be made of Trish and Donald. Without Trish's efforts, the quality of Pat's last few years would be impossible to imagine and without whom we would not be here today. Some of you may be surprised to know that Trish is not directly related to Pat, but was married to Tom's son Stuart, who sadly died. Pat was known as 'GrandPat' to all the McCarthy children and grandchildren some of whom are here today and then to an extended family of friends on both sides of the Atlantic.
Pat was a unique person who brought colour and light to the many she touched during her long life. It has been a pleasure for me, as one of those many, to give this short address in her memory.
Thank you Pat.
They had the following children:
F i Alexandra McCarthy
James Skelton [Parents] was born in Cumberland, England. He died in Ireland.
This branch of the family moved from Cumberland England to Armagh, Ireland in 1713. It is presumed that James' father Thomas initiated the move but it is unsure how many members of the family re-established themselves in Ireland.
He had the following children:
M i William Skelton Sir
Samuel Welsh died in 1794 in Lisnaroe, Clincoe, Ireland & Templetate. He married Elizabeth Mitchell.
Other marriages:McCaffery, Eliza
Elizabeth Mitchell [Parents].Elizabeth married Samuel Welsh.
Other marriages:Nixon,
They had the following children:
F i Welsh F ii Welsh F iii Mary Welsh M iv Henry Welsh.
Emigrated to CanadaM v Thomas Welsh F vi Kate Welsh F vii Welsh
John Skelton [Parents] died in 1897 in Kansas, U.S.A..
emigrated to Kansas in US
He had the following children:
M i William Skelton
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